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Blame Changer : Understanding Domestic Violence - Carmel O'Brien

Blame Changer

Understanding Domestic Violence

Paperback Published: 26th September 2016
ISBN: 9780992539467
Number Of Pages: 176

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Blame Changer by psychologist Carmel O'Brien, former head of Clinical Services at Victoria's Doncare, provides straight forward answers to common questions and aims to debunk pervasive myths around what Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull last year called "one of Australia's greatest shames" domestic violence. But Blame Changer is much more than the definitive rebuttal of some of society's most damaging, ill-informed and pervasive attitudes about domestic violence. It sounds a clarion call for a change in the way we talk - at the dinner table, on social media and in national conversation at the highest levels - about women and the violence they experience.

What's more, it's also a practical guide that will help victims of abuse: Blame Changer also shows friends and family how to help a victim of abuse and challenges how the Family Court system responds to allegations of abuse. This is the definitive guide to domestic violence in Australia, by a woman who has worked with countless victims over many years.

About the Author

Carmel O’Brien managed the counselling programs and led the development of domestic violence programs at Doncaster Community Care and Counselling Centre (Doncare) in Melbourne’s east from 2001-2015. She established the Dorothy Rose Fund, in memory of her mother, to provide services that meet the individual and practical needs of women and children in recovery from domestic violence. She also founded the SaSSing Choir for victims of DV and their supporters. She is a Fellow of the Australian Pyschological Society and the Cairnmillar Institute. Carmel has seven adult children, and lives in Rosebud, Victoria. This is her first book.

Industry Reviews

There is certainly no shortage of writing on domestic violence. Every so often however, someone comes along with a contribution that might just make a profound and lasting difference. CarmelO'Brien's Blame Changer takes a tough and fraught issue and deals with it with experience and wisdom writ large, providing plainly written, cut-through propositions on every page, without losing qualityor rigour. It could be a game changer. -- Mary Crooks, Executive Director, Victorian Women's Trust

Blame Changer provides a thoughtful explanation of the ways in which women's lives are impacted by family violence. It helps to clarify many of the myths and misconceptions about the nature and dynamics of family violence informed by women's lived experiences. It will be a great resource for anyone wanting to learn more about this pervasive social problem. -- Domestic Violence

Victoria Unapologetically direct and honest about the realities of domestic violence, Blame Changer is a breath of fresh air. Written in everyday language from frontline expert experience, this is essential reading for anyone who wants to understand domestic violence, help those it hurts, challenge the myths and work to stop it. -- Dr Chris Atmore, Senior Policy Adviser, Federation of Community Legal Centres (Victoria) Inc.

Groundbreaking. A major strength is the author's use of real life examples when challenging long-held beliefs, and it offers us new insights into the nature of domestic violence. Everyone should read Blame Changer. -- Irene Gerrard, social worker and family therapist

Blame Changer speaks directly to the many Australians who have experienced domestic violence, or know someone who has.It should be on the desk of every counsellor, police officer, politician and health professional who is in a position to take action at an individual, family, community or policy level to stop domestic violence. Actually, isn't that all of us? -- Heather Gridley, community and counselling psychologist, APS Honorary Fellow

Very informative


I wanted to know about domestic violence, defining it, how to spot it, how to help a friend experiencing it. This book answered those questions and more. It is well introduced and clear in its aim with lots of case examples. It is focused on men who choose to behave badly to the women that they are in intimate relationships with. The author does acknowledge that there are other combinations of relationships that can experience domestic violence, but this book does not discuss them. It was straight forward, helpful and easy to read.



I can not express enough how helpful this book is.


This book is beyond any other text I have found on relationships. It should be standard reading for all young teenagers at school.



A clear voice on a messy issue


This book is an engaging and easy read on a challenging and frequently misunderstood subject. It manages, in just a few hundred pages, to bust many of the common myths about family violence, to address the behavioural patterns, tactics and intentions of abusive men towards women, the devastating impact on a woman trying to survive within such a relationship (and why what she does or doesn't do will *not* fix him or change him) and finally offers clear, practical ways to help somebody you know who is going through this torment. There's some really good resources at the back, too. Full of real life stories of family violence which the author has encountered in her professional work, everyone can relate to this book and learn a great deal about the subject by reading it. I am not a very fast reader but I knocked it over in a couple of hours because the chapters are brief and specific and language is just so accessible. A really great book.

Glenroy, Victoria


A book that every family should read


This book is a great and informative read on a not so nice subject. Because domestic violence can affect everyone in the family, it is a help to everyone around the family member experiencing it.

Perth Western Australia


Domestic Violence Explained


There are so many questions about Domestic Violence. This book answers them all in plain easily understood detail so that those who thought Domestic Violence was about men's bad behaviour will be able to understand the complex nature of this crime and its ramifications for the victims. Not a pretty book but if you want to understand what Domestic Violence isabout, this is the one.

Adelaide Australia



5.0 5


ISBN: 9780992539467
ISBN-10: 0992539463
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 176
Published: 26th September 2016
Publisher: Threekookaburras
Country of Publication: AU
Dimensions (cm): 22.91 x 15.19  x 1.04
Weight (kg): 0.27

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