A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behaviour patterns in their own lives.
'This Is How Your Marriage Ends is the book we have been waiting for - an entertaining, honest, and truly practical guide for saving our relationships' - Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity
'Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor' - Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play
Good people can be bad partners.
One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. On it, he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from the college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole. It turns out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband.
As he shared raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, Matthew started to gain a following. Then he wrote a post titled 'She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink' - it went viral and was read over four million times.
This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. Good people can be bad partners - this book is how you change that.
About the Author
Matthew Fray is a relationship coach and writer who leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did. He got divorced because he left dishes by the sink. Fray writes about that and more on his blog Must Be This Tall To Ride.
Industry Reviews
'Matt Fray bravely takes us on a tour of the male brain in relationships and how we can become our own worst enemy. By doing so, he reveals why we (men and women) get it wrong so often and what we can do to fix it ... This Is How Your Marriage Ends is the book we have been waiting for - an entertaining, honest, and truly practical guide for saving our relationships' - Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity
'An important book! Especially for men (hand raised for leaving dishes by the sink many times) ... Matt's approach is refreshing and much needed in our world. He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership' - John Kim, bestselling author of Single On Purpose
'Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor' - Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)
'Matthew Fray's book - at turns sobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious - gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it - for yourself and for the one you love' - Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful Question
'Matt has a way of lacing truth with humour. He puts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies' - Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love
