Nasty People

How to Stop Being Hurt by Them Without Stooping to Their Level

By: Jay Carter

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Paperback | 2 June 2003 | Edition Number 2

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The publication in 1989 (Contemporary Books) of Nasty People has led to Dr. Jay Carter's 13-year mission to help people who are abused, intimidated, put down, and who have lost their self-esteem due to the mocking/manipulative treatment they've received from Nasty People. The author speaks to groups of 50 to 150 people 4 to 5 times a week both across the country and internationally, has a Psy.D., and writes articles for several magazines, including Mothering, Readers' Digest and Weight Watchers. Through Dr. Carter's understanding of behavior and what makes Nasty People nasty, readers learn: - How Nasty People think, what motivates them, and how they should react to them - How to avoid confrontation with a Nasty Boss, while still solving problems in a healthy, efficient manner - How to handle a Nasty spouse, romantic partner, or family member - What to do if you think you might be a Nasty Person - How to break the cycle of nastiness Now 14 years after the original publication of Nasty People, the time is right to update and revise this book, taking advantage of Dr. Carter's growing platform, and continue the success of Nasty People with a revised edition and updated package and price. This new edition includes: - An Introduction from the author discussing what he's learned in the last 14 years about Nasty People - Discussion on Nasty People vs. our new understanding of personality disorders - New chapter on narcissism, nasty behavior and self-doubt, nasty people and self-validation and the role adrenaline plays in nasty behavior and our responses to it. - How to stick up for yourself with dignity and pride

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Acknowledgments	p. ix
From a Student	p. xi
From the Author	p. xiii
Overview	p. xix
The Invalidator	p. 1
Portrait of an Invalidator	p. 3
Methods of the Invalidator	p. 7
Uncertainty	p. 7
Projection	p. 9
Generalization	p. 10
Judgment	p. 10
Manipulation	p. 11
Sneak Attack	p. 13
Double Message	p. 13
Cutting Communication	p. 16
Building You Up, Cutting You Down	p. 16
The Double Bind	p. 17
The Bigger Picture	p. 23
Self-Doubt	p. 25
Narcissism (Everything Is About Me)	p. 27
Chemical Imbalances	p. 29
Personality Disorders	p. 31
Invalidator: An Archetype	p. 32
Most Obvious Personality	p. 34
Less Obvious Personality	p. 35
Least Obvious Personality	p. 35
Identifying an Invalidator	p. 37
The Victim	p. 43
How Victims Are Compelled to Remain Victims	p. 44
Creating a Victim	p. 46
Right/Wrong Dysfunction	p. 48
Two Dancers: An Example	p. 54
The Cycle of Invalidation	p. 57
To an Invalidator	p. 58
Why You Are an Invalidator	p. 59
How Do You Stop?	p. 60
What Happens to Invalidators?	p. 62
To the Invalidated Who Doesn't Invalidate	p. 71
What Do We Do About It?	p. 75
Invalidator Boss	p. 75
Invalidator Spouse	p. 81
Handling Invalidation	p. 83
Confronting	p. 89
Repeat That, Please	p. 89
Tell the Whole Truth	p. 90
Get Him or Her Alone	p. 92
Mirror the Projection	p. 92
What to Tell Children About Invalidators	p. 93
Coping with Invalidation	p. 95
To Invalidation: The Mechanism	p. 97
To Invalidation	p. 98
Bibliography	p. 101
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