Losing Them, Finding You

"Losing Them, Finding You" is a guide aimed at helping individuals navigate the challenging process of closure, recovery, and starting over after experiencing a significant loss in their lives. Divided into four sections, the series explores different aspects that contribute to personal growth and healing.

The first section, "Reasoning Needs," focuses on the importance of closure and how to achieve it. It discusses the emotional targets of concluding with emotional intelligence, discernment, and capacity, and suggests physical actions such as research, experiments, and staying informed to aid in the closure process. The section also emphasizes the significance of answering questions with awareness and shifting focus from their feelings to yours.

The second section, "Character Traits," delves into the traits individuals need to cultivate within themselves during the recovery process. It highlights the importance of allowing others their faults and suggests physical actions like resolving conflicts, seeking help, and helping others to foster ownership and autonomy. The section also explores the topic of personhood and how individuals can stoke their emotional intelligence to aid in recovery.

"Mental Flexibilities," the third section, emphasizes the importance of adaptability and self-reflection in the process of starting over. It suggests emotional targets of allowing, positivity, and non-striving, and recommends physical actions such as working smarter, solving problems, and embracing uncertainty. The section also delves into the significance of self-reflection, journaling, sharing, and doing grief work, as well as the role of gratitude in finding joy consistently.

The final section, "Growth Habits," focuses on developing essential habits that contribute to personal growth and development. It discusses resourcefulness and the importance of trust, as well as the significance of emotional space and productive change. The section also explores the concept of removing limits, blame, and collaboration as important aspects of personal growth.