Intimacy And Desire

In this groundbreaking book, Dr. David Schnarch, one of the foremost experts on sexuality and relationships, explains why normal healthy couples in long-term relationships have sexual desire problems, regardless of how much they love each other or how well they communicate. In-depth examples of couples he has counselled reveal his unique understanding of common-but-difficult sexual desire problems that affect couples of all ages. Combining compassion and clinical wisdom, Dr. Schnarch explains how to use his revolutionary Four Points of Balance approach to resolve low desire, mismatched desire, sexual boredom, and the emotional gridlock that accompanies these problems.

Intimacy and Desire provides a roadmap for how couples can transform common sexual desire problems into self-exploration and personal development that leads to psychological and spiritual growth, stronger relationships, and more powerful and meaningful desire for each other. It provides time-proven comprehensive solutions that help couples reconnect with each other sexually, and take their intimacy and passion to new, previously unexplored heights.


'How do you keep a sexual relationship alive, intimate and passionate? David Schnarch offers the best answers to this question in his book Intimacy & Desire by presenting a comprehensive look at the issues of passion and desire through numerous examples, clinically developed behavioral suggestions and a broad spectrum of relationship dynamics including the latest in neural plasticity and interpersonal neurobiology. This book comes with my highest recommendation. We are going to use it in our training program.'
-William Stayton, M. Div, ThD, PhD, Professor, Assistant Director, Satcher Health Leadership Institute, Morehouse School of Medicine

'This is a must read for any couple facing sexual desire problems in their relationship. In a highly readable book, you have one of the leading sex and marital therapists in the world offering evidence-based solutions. Follow his guidance and you can awaken your desire and passion and increase intimacy in your relationship.'
-Eli Coleman, PhD, Chair in Sexual Health Program, University of Minnesota Medical School

'Once again, David Schnarch gives us a roadmap for understanding and working with couples struggling with issues around sexual desire. Defining sexual desire differences as normal rather than pathological and elucidating the potential for psychological and spiritual growth within problems of desire turns conventional thinking 180 degrees and opens new vistas for therapeutic intervention. Every couples therapist should read this book and apply it to their work with themselves as well as with their clients.'
-William M. Pinsof, PhD, President, The Family Institute at Northwestern University