Good Together

It's 2 a.m. and you can't sleep again. You've had the same argument with your spouse for the third time this month, and you're starting to wonder whether you should still be in this marriage at all.

You're not ready to call a divorce lawyer. You're not ready to leave. You just need to know.

Diana Romanov has spent more than twenty years inside that question. As a Certified Family Law Specialist and the founder of one of the Bay Area's most respected boutique divorce practices, she has watched thousands of marriages come apart - and she has watched her own marriage nearly do the same. GOOD TOGETHER is the book she wishes every client had read before they walked into her office.

This is not a divorce manual. It is not a checklist. It is sixty-four questions, drawn from two decades of family law practice and from Diana's own marriage, designed to help you do something most people skip on the way to the courthouse: ask yourself what you actually want, and why.

Through five client stories - couples she represented at the edge of separation - and her own honest account of the night she paced her hallway muttering "divorce, divorce, divorce" and decided instead to stay, Diana shows you how to turn the lens off your partner and onto yourself.

You will not find tactics here. You will not find ways to fix him, ways to leave her, or ways to win. You will find questions:

How do you want to feel in your relationship?

Why are you choosing to stay?

What is your relationship's real challenge?

What is your partner's perspective on it?

The result is clarity. Sometimes that clarity ends in repair. Sometimes it ends in divorce. Either way, you walk out of the question knowing why.

If you have searched "should I stay or should I go," "is my marriage over," or "signs my marriage is failing" at 2 a.m., this book was written for you.

For readers of Esther Perel's MATING IN CAPTIVITY, Lori Gottlieb's MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE, and the work of John Gottman.