Couples Conversations

After years of sitting with couples through their hardest seasons, Dr. Ari Sytner, LCSW took his experience as a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist and created Building Our Future, the 5th volume of the Couples Conversations series.

In it, couples will find 300 therapist-crafted questions that help couples see beyond their past struggles, and guide them in meaningful conversations that will build closeness as they shape their future dreams. A relationship is strongest when it builds on gratitude for what you already have, resilience for what life takes away, and a shared vision for everything still waiting to be built.

Endorsed by Dr. John Gottman, world's leading relationship expert: "I absolutely love this book. It is an incredibly useful handbook for couples to build the essential aspects of their relationship together."

The questions in this book are not generic icebreakers. They are guided conversations on important topics which strengthen the heart of a relationship and give couples an optimistic future to jointly build together.

If you notice a quiet drifting apart in your relationship, it often means the conversations that build closeness are being overlooked. That is where Volume 5 of Couples Conversations comes in. It helps guide you back to each other in comfortable, thoughtful, and scientifically grounded discussions designed to strengthen your love and your relationship.

• 300 guided questions across three chapters: deepening gratitude and appreciation, navigating hardships together, and building dreams for your future
• Warm clinical framing before each section, so the heavier conversations feel safe instead of scary
• A no-pressure format for date night, a long drive, vacation together, or a few quiet minutes after the kids are asleep
• Checkboxes to track what you have explored, and reflection space after every chapter to turn a good conversation into something you actually live
• Guidance rooted in relationship science and research that steers couples in the right direction

• Feel more like roommates or co-managers than partners, even when things look fine from the outside
• Are walking through grief, loss, illness, a career change, or any season you did not choose
• Want to feel appreciated for everything you carry, and to help your partner feel the same
• Still have dreams you have never said out loud, and want a future you are building on purpose
• Are looking for a meaningful anniversary, wedding, engagement, or Valentine's Day gift for the couple who has everything

Unlike a deck of conversation cards, every question here was crafted by a licensed couples therapist and grounded in the research on what makes love last.

This is Volume 5 of the Couples Conversations series, and you can start right here, with no earlier volume needed. Together, all five volumes strengthen every dimension of a thriving relationship, from foundation and communication to romance, values, and lasting connection. Get each book individually, or enjoy them all to maximize your love and connection.

"I was truly amazed by this book! Dialogue sparked by these questions will be rewarding for both newly formed and long-term couples." - Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Host of TV's Married at First Sight

By getting this book, you are not waiting for connection to happen to you. You are choosing to build it.
Scroll up, grab your copy, and start the conversation tonight.