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100 Simple Secrets

What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It

By: David PhD. Niven

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Paperback | 28 June 2023

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What are the essential qualities of a great relationship? What do people in healthy and happy relationships do differently? Scientists and academics have spent entire careers investigating the nature of relationships, dating, and marriage, yet their findings are inaccessible to ordinary people, hidden in obscure journals read only by other academics. Now the bestselling author of the 100 Simple Secrets series has collected the most current and significant data from more than a thousand studies on relationships and spells out the key findings in plain English. The advice is not based on one person's unique experiences or opinions, but offers for the first time the research of noted scientists studying the lives and loves of average Americans. Each of the findings is accompanied by a true story that shows the results in action.

Love is hard to calculate: Researchers have proven that a partner's age, income, education, and religion are unrelated factors in the likelihood of relationship satisfaction.

Always trying to win can lead to a major loss: People who feel a sense of competition with their partner are 37 percent less likely to feel that their relationship is satisfying.

leave the past in the past: More than 40 percent of people report that jealousy over a previous relationship is a source of conflict in their current relationship.

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"Like a good Irish sermon, each of these 100 secrets is meaningful, satisfying, and quickly delivered."--Library Journal

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Non-Fiction Sociology & Anthropology Sociology Sociology & Family & Relationships Family & Health Relationships & Families: Advice & Issues Dating, Relationships, Living Together & Marriage Self-Help, Personal Development & Practical Advice Popular Psychology Assertiveness, Motivation & Self-Esteem & Positive Mental Attitude Mind, Body, Spirit Thought and Practice

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A Note to Readers	p. xi
Introduction	p. xiii
The Mundane Is Heroic	p. 1
See Possibilities Where Others See Obstacles	p. 3
Set Rules for Conflict	p. 5
Anyone Can Find a Happy Relationship	p. 8
It's Not How Hard You Try	p. 10
You Have Nothing to Envy	p. 12
Attitude Triumphs over Outcome	p. 14
Don't Be Bound by Tradition	p. 16
The Past Is Not the Future	p. 18
No One Wins the Comparison Game	p. 20
See the Love Around You	p. 22
Doing Nothing Is Rarely a Solution	p. 24
You'll Forget the Disagreement but Remember the Disagreeing	p. 26
Pursue What You Need Forever, Not What You Want Today	p. 28
Seek Harmony in Your Life	p. 31
The Relationship Test: Are You Lonely?	p. 33
It's the Little Things That Matter the Most	p. 35
A Relationship Requires Two Equals	p. 37
Beware of Fairy Tales	p. 40
Cultivate a Common Interest	p. 42
Treat the Disease, Not the Symptom	p. 44
There's No Point in Putting On a Show	p. 46
You Make Your Own History	p. 48
Maintain Your Sense of Control	p. 50
Money Can't Buy Love, but It Can Buy Stress	p. 52
There Are No Mind Readers	p. 54
There's No Need to Hurry	p. 56
Friends Speak from Experience-Their Own	p. 58
Drink Less	p. 60
Decide Whether You Want to Win or Be Happy	p. 62
A Sense of Humor Helps	p. 64
Think Beyond the Engagement	p. 66
See the Friendship in Your Relationship	p. 68
The Most Time Is Not the Best Time	p. 70
Reduce TV Time	p. 72
The World Will Intrude on Your Relationship	p. 74
Gentlemen Prefer the Same Things Ladies Prefer	p. 76
Love Is Blind but Life Isn't Always	p. 78
Balance Depends on Which Way You Lean	p. 80
A Relationship by Any Other Name Is Just as Important	p. 82
The Future Matters More Than the Past	p. 84
You Don't Have to See Eye to Eye on Everything	p. 86
Be Open with Each Other	p. 88
Accentuate the Positive in All Aspects of Your Life	p. 90
It Helps to Be Friends	p. 92
Foundations Are Created in the Beginning	p. 94
Ambivalence Is a Negative	p. 96
Share Housework	p. 98
A Relationship Starts with Yourself	p. 100
Let Go of the Burden of Pain	p. 102
Develop a Healthy Calm	p. 104
Think of Your Own Ideal	p. 106
Stay Flexible	p. 108
Think About Potential	p. 110
Even in a Relationship, You Are Still an Individual	p. 112
Rest Up-This Is Going to Take Some Effort	p. 114
Like the Way You Look	p. 116
Don't Romanticize the Past	p. 118
Share the Praise and Share in the Blame	p. 120
You Can't Find Without Looking	p. 122
Meaningful Commitment Is Mutual Commitment	p. 124
Friendships Predict Relationships	p. 126
Prepare for Milestones	p. 128
Don't Bring Your Job Home with You	p. 130
We Assume Similar Preferences	p. 132
Don't Let Secrets Eat You Up	p. 134
To Find a Better Way, Look Where You've Been	p. 136
Money Matters Less over Time	p. 138
Recognize the Value of Shared Values	p. 140
Understand What You're Looking For	p. 142
Never Let Faults Stand for the Whole	p. 144
You'll Need Some Relationship Friends	p. 146
Don't Wait to Start Moving in the Right Direction	p. 148
Music Can Bring Us Together	p. 150
Define What You Need	p. 152
Show You Care, Even When It's Hard To	p. 154
Make Your Decisions for Positive Reasons	p. 156
A Relationship Is Built on a Foundation of Support	p. 158
The Pieces of Your Life Must Fit Together	p. 161
Master Your Fears	p. 163
We Are All Much More Alike Than Different	p. 165
Limit Your Interest in the Past	p. 167
Get Your Reality from Reality	p. 169
You Are Never Too Old to Find Love	p. 171
We Look Inward to See How People Feel About Us	p. 173
Be Willing to Evolve	p. 175
Connect, See You're Capable, and Know You Count	p. 177
Reliability Counts a Lot	p. 179
You Are Complete by Yourself Intensity Fades	p. 181
Intensity Fades	p. 183
Beware Second Opinions	p. 185
Have Faith but Don't Forget Reality	p. 187
Pay Attention	p. 189
Nice People Don't Finish Last	p. 191
Relationships Are like Modern Art	p. 193
It's Not Easy, Even if It Looks It	p. 195
Most People Are Looking for Experienced Rookies	p. 197
It's for You-or It Isn't	p. 199
See the Horizon, Watch Your Step	p. 201
The Search for Perfection Is Endless	p. 203
Sources	p. 205
Acknowledgments	p. 221
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