Random Thoughts: The Sh*t We Don't Talk About is not your typical self-help book-and thank God for that.
This is the stuff whispered at 2 a.m. after a glass of wine and too much honesty. It's the chaos behind the curated Instagram feeds, the conversations we avoid because they're messy, and the moments we survive that never make it into holiday cards.
Joseph Tito, creator of The Dad Diaries and father of twin daughters born through surrogacy, strips back the layers of parenthood, grief, identity, love, rage, therapy, ambition, and the quiet unraveling that sometimes happens on the way to "having it all." From jet-setting film producer to full-time dad in a minivan, Joseph delivers gut-punch truths and laugh-out-loud confessions that will make you feel seen, called out, and comforted-often all in the same paragraph.
This is a memoir-meets-manifesto for anyone who's ever questioned if they're doing life "right." Spoiler: there is no right. There's only real-and Joseph brings it in spades.
Whether you're deep in the parenting trenches, unpacking generational trauma, embracing queer love, or simply wondering when you became the adult who cries in grocery store parking lots, this book is for you.
Because life is beautiful. And brutal. And hilarious. And exhausting. And worth talking about-even the sh*t we usually don't.
Industry Reviews
"Raw, emotional, funny, and real-Random Thoughts covers everything from parental meltdowns to queer identity with heart and honesty. Joseph Tito doesn't just tell his story-he tells our story. I hope it changes your life, makes you laugh, and helps you see humanity a little differently."
- Todrick Hall, Artist & LGBTQ+ Trailblazerâ
"Joseph Tito's Random Thoughts is the literary equivalent of a late-night text from your most brutally honest, hilarious friend-the one who makes you laugh until you cry and then says something so real it stays with you for days. With razor-sharp wit and gut-punch vulnerability, Tito peels back the filters and gives us the messy, beautiful chaos of modern life. This isn't just a book you read-it's one you feel in your bones. If you've ever wrestled with identity, parenthood, self-doubt, or the absurdity of trying to 'have it all,' this one's for you."
- Book Riot
"Finally, a parenting memoir that doesn't pretend to have it all figured out. Tito's reflections are messy, beautiful, and above all-real. This book is a permission slip to exhale."
- HuffPost Parents
"Tito redefines the LGBTQ+ parenting narrative with vulnerability and sass. It's not just about fatherhood-it's about choosing love over fear, again and again."
- Queerty
