Responding to the Culture of Bullying and Disrespect

Foreword by Honey Berg Acknowledgments About the Authors Introduction Part I. Laying Foundations 1. How Problems Develop: A Frog Story and a Shift in Perspective Lessons From This Story Useful Options Are Also Eliminated Does Everyone Have the Same Contextual Blocks? 2. Are Problems of Disrespect Inadvertently Supported? Competition Comparison Rules Achievement at All Cost Evaluation 3. Unraveling Assumptions: Educators' Roles and Students' Behaviors The Effects of Myths and Assumptions Common School Questions: New Ways of Thinking 4. Responding Effectively to Problems A Fresh Attitude Chipping Away at the Problem With a Powerful Tool: Externalization Dealing Narratively With Disrespect and Bullying A Narrative Response Additional Options Summary of the Practice of Externalizing Common Questions About the Externalization Process 5. Being Respectful and Open to Students' Experiences Defining Experience Experience of School Overlapping Experiences of the Problem Addressing These Experiences 6. Making Changes Last for More Than a Week The Dandelion Problem Thinking Outside the Box Multiple Selves: Who Is the Real Person? Stories Creating Stories Through Language Mentally Filling the Blanks Perspectives Create Stories An Educator's Question: If Truths Don't Exist, How Do We Know Which Story to Trust? Audience: You Are Who You Are Perceived to Be The Thread of New Stories: Recapitulation Reauthoring Alex's Journey Common Teacher Questions: New Ways of Thinking Part II. Applications and Examples: Success Stories of Overcoming Bullying and Disrespect 7. Listening to Students' Voices Disrespect/Bullying Survey Interviews: Walking in Students' Shoes 8. Cultivating Respect, Appreciation, and Tolerance in the School Connection Appreciation Collaboration Self-Reflection Community and Diversity Respect and Shedding Adultism Teacher Question About Shedding Adultism 9. Dealing With Disrespect and Bullying in the Classroom: The Bugging Bug Project A Review of the Narrative Ideas That Guide This Project Section 1: Externalizing the Problem Section 2: Building on Successes Section 3: Celebration of Knowledge and Expertise Brief Summary of Classroom Facilitation Considerations Conclusion 10. Working With Individual Students Around Bullying: Helping a Child Suffering From a "Bullying Spell" A Problem-Dominated Identity Rewriting the Story in a Vacuum Rewriting the Story in the Community A Past to the Preferred Story at School A Past to the Preferred Stories at Home Extending the Audience to the Preferred Story Conclusion 11. Brain and Behaviors: How Young People Change and How Educators Can Help The Visible Story The Invisible Story The Contextual Story The Historical Story Dead-End or Future Possibilities? The Possible Future Conclusion Part III. Prevention: Scaffolding a Complex and Sound Culture of Respect 12. Creating a Partnership With Response-able Youth Bubble Trouble Lessons From This Story: The Beliefs The People The Relationship Teacher Questions 13. Spotlight on Stories of Successful Prevention Story 1: "You're Ugly" Story 2: The Clipboard Story 3: Sign Language Story 4: The Violent Drawing Story 5: Girls' Meanness Story 6: The Brand New Atlas Spotlight on a School With a Successful Prevention Model Conclusion Resource A: Glossary Resource B: Summary Table of Strategies Resource C: Discourses Resource D: "Yes and" Exercise Resource E: Educators' Problem-Solving Questions References Index