CONTENTS
Introduction
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CLEAN, CLOTHED, & WELL RESTED
10 Defining Principles
Diapering
The Basics • Keeping Your Squirmer Entertained • Dealing with Diaper Rash • Protection Against Nighttime Leaks • Keeping Diapers on Your Child • Saving Money
Toilet Training
Getting Underway • On the Road • At Night
Clothing
Buying Clothes • Shoes • Pajamas • Making It Easy for Your Toddler to Dress Himself • Ending Clothing Battles • Dressing for School • Patching, Buttons, & Repairs • Outgrown Clothes
Bathing & Grooming
Sponge Bathing Your Newborn • Baby Bath • When Your Child Dislikes Baths • Make Yourself Comfortable & Productive • Get Creative • Splashing • Getting out of the Tub • Summer Bath • Bath Safety • Nails • Hair
Dental Care
Care of Baby Teeth • Teething Relief • Brushing • Flossing
Sleep
Bedtime Routine • Night Owls & Early Risers • When Your Child Refuses Naps • Nighttime Fears • Family Bed
2
FEEDING YOUR CHILD
10 Defining Principles
Breastfeeding, Bottlefeeding, & Weaning Breastfeeding
Advantages • Getting Started • Latching onto the Breast • When Your Baby Refuses to Nurse • Prevention of & Relief for Sore Nipples • Cost-Saving Nursing Pads and Bras • Pumping • Breastfeeding & Travel for Work
Bottlefeeding
Advantages • Formula • Nipples • Feeding Your Baby Her Bottle • Warming Bottles • Nighttime Bottles
Burping
Weaning
Weaning from the Breast • Weaning to a Cup • Weaning off a Pacifier
Introducing Solids
Signs Your Baby Is Ready for More Textured Food • Getting Started • Spoon Feeding • Order of Introduction • Allergens • Baby Food • High Chair • Bibs • Finger Food • Choking • Teaching Your Toddler to Pour Her Own Drinks • Cleaning Up
Feeding Your Fussy Eater
Eating Well • Making Food More Fun • Ways to Get Your Child to Eat Vegetables & Fruit • Not Hungry at Mealtimes • If Your Child Refuses to Eat Breakfast • School Lunch Ideas
Feeding Your Overeater
In the Kitchen Tips
How to Make Dinner Without Going Crazy • Meal Planning • Cooking Ahead for Meals • Using Your Freezer • Time Savers • Family Dinners
3
MEDICAL CONCERNS, CHILDPROOFING, & SAFETY
10 Defining Principles
Pediatric Care
Selecting a Pediatrician • Ongoing Care • Calling After Hours • Keeping Medical Records • When to Change Pediatricians
Emergencies & Hospitalization
Emergency Room Visits • Hospitalization
Colic
Home Medical Care
Giving Your Child Medicine • Cold & Flu Season • Comforting Your Sick Child • Booboos • Bites, Stings, & Insects • Nosebleeds • Rashes, Chicken Pox, & Poison Ivy • Protection from the Sun • Allergy-Proofing
Childproofing & Safety
Utilities & Appliances • Doors • Windows • Stairways • Furniture & Knickknacks • Baby Equipment • Toys • Bathroom • Kitchen • Decks, Porches, & Balconies • Backyard • Garage • Car • Bicycle • Accidental Poisoning • Lead Poisoning
Disaster Precautions
Fire Safety • Water Safety • Disaster Survival Kit • Preventing Abduction
4
SOCIALIZING YOUR CHILD
10 Defining Principles
Discipline
Alternatives to Saying No • Time-Outs
Behavioral Challenges
Tantrums & Bad Moods • Interruptions • Thumb Sucking • Aggression & Biting • Lying • Whining
Siblings
Siblings & a New Baby • Getting Along
Friendships
Playgroups • Playdates & Friends • Sleepovers
Teaching Manners
Getting Started • Table Manners • Thank-You Notes
5
GETTING ORGANIZED
10 Defining Principles
Organizing Your Home
A Place for Everything • Getting Rid of Clutter & Junk • Your Child's Bedroom • Toys • Artwork & School Projects • Kitchen • Emergency Telephone Sheet • Bathroom • Closets • Storage • Backyard & Garden
Prioritizing & Keeping Track
Weekly To-Do List • Calendar
Organizing Paper
Mail • Working Files for Daily Use • Family Filing System • Household Warranties
Establishing Family Routines
Mastering the Morning Launch • Family Meetings • Family Goal Setting
Personal Time & Relationships
Time for Self • Time with Your Partner • Logistics Around Divorce • Keeping in Touch
Moving with Kids
Making the Transition Easier • Gathering Information About Your New Community • What to Open, Close, Return, Retrieve, & Transfer • Packing It Up • Saying Goodbye • Getting Acclimated
Surviving a Home Renovation with Kids Underfoot
Legal Issues
Your Will • Nominating a Guardian for Your Child
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HOME CARE & HOUSEKEEPING
10 Defining Principles
Engaging Your Partner's Help
How to Involve Your Child
Starting Your Child on Chores • Chores for Your Toddler • Chores for Your Older Child • Using a Chore Chart • Inspiration Along the Way • Allowance & Pay for Extra Chores
Housekeeping & Cleaning
General Cleaning Tips • Kitchen • Stain Removal & Damage Repairs Around the House • Laundry • Hiring Housecleaning Help
Running Errands & Shopping
Pets & Your Child
7
WORK & FAMILY BALANCE
10 Defining Principles
Negotiating Maternity Leave
Announcing You're Pregnant • Your Office's Policy • How Much Leave to Take • Arranging for Coverage During Your Leave • Weeks Leading up to Your Leave • When to Start Your Leave • While on Leave • Returning to Work
Revising Your Work Schedule
Evaluate Your Situation • Work Structure Options • Working at Home: Telecommuting • Making Your Request to Your Employer • Negotiating Your Salary • Leave Room for Change
Managing Your Work at the Office
Structuring Your Work Time • Using the Wizard of Oz Technique • Minimizing Interruptions • Fielding Overtime & Off-Hour Requests • Forming a Network of Working Moms
Travel for Work
Pacing Your Travel • Coordinating with Your Partner • Managing Your Household While You Travel • Sharing Information with Your Child • Keeping in Touch • Taking Your Child Along • Explaining to Your Child Why She Can't Join You • Bringing Back Surprises
Managing the Home Front
Using Breaks at Work for Errands • Staying Connected to Your Child • Sharing with Your Child What You Do at Work • Arriving Home in an Upbeat Mood • Unwinding After Work
Working from Home
The Mom-trepreneur: Running a Home-Based Business • Setting Up Your Home Office & Work Schedule • Telecommuting • Dealing with Clients • Fielding Interruptions • Combating Loneliness
Becoming a Full-Time Mom
Deciding to Stay at Home • Financial Planning • Leaving Your Job • Culture Shock & Self-Esteem • Finding Other Stay-at-Home Moms • Returning to the Work Force
Managing Volunteer & Outside Commitments
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CHILD CARE
10 Defining Principles
Hiring a Nanny or Au Pair
Finding a Nanny • The Hiring Process • Arriving at a Written Agreement
Family Day Care & Day-Care Center
Family Day Care • Day-Care Center • Selecting a Provider
A Relative or Friend as Your Child-Care Provider
Factors to Evaluate in Making a Decision
Managing the Ongoing Relationship
Orienting Your Nanny or Au Pair • Dealing with Separation Anxiety • Communication & Showing Appreciation • Assessing How Well a Situation Is Working • Ending a Relationship • Arranging Backup Child-Care Coverage
f0 Part-time, Evening, & Weekend Baby-sitting
Finding a Baby-sitter • Orienting Your Baby-sitter • Forming Baby-sitting Co-operatives or Swapping with Friends
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SCHOOL & EDUCATION
10 Defining Principles
Choosing a Preschool
Investigating Schools • Paying a Visit • References
School Preparations
Beginning in a New School • Before School Starts • Getting to School • The First Day of School
Getting Your Child to Talk About His Day
Being Involved in Your Child's School
Homework
Set a Regular Time • Designate a Homework Place & Eliminate Distractions • Help Your Child Structure Work Habits • Your Involvement • Dealing with Struggling or Mistakes
Communicating with Your Child's School
Parent-Teacher Conferences • Advocating for Your Special Needs Child
Showing Appreciation to Teachers
Home Schooling
Celebrating the End of the School Year
10
OUTINGS & ACTIVITIES
10 Defining Principles
Outings, Day Trips, & Excursions
Advance Planning • Things You Need • Diaper Bag: Newborn to Five Months • Six Months & Older, Add to the Bag • Keeping Your Baby Happy in the Car • Outdoor Excursions • Indoor Excursions • Museum or Historical Sites • The Theatre • Athletic Events
Dining Out as a Family
Choosing a Restaurant • Seating • Ordering Food • Entertainment While Waiting
Indoor Activities
Arts & Crafts • Creative Games • Reading • Growing Seeds & Indoor Plants
Outdoor Activities
Beating the Rainy or Snowy Day Blues • Backyard & Sidewalk Activities • Outdoor Gardening • Evening Activities
Classes, Sports, & Structured Activities
Choosing Classes or Activities • Picking a Sport • Summer Camp
TV, Computers, & Electronic Games
TV Management • Computer & Electronic Games
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MEMORIES & CELEBRATIONS
10 Defining Principles
Birthdays
Ways to Make the Day Special • Your Birthday Party Budget • Timing of the Party • Invitations • Party at Home • Having the Party Outside of Your Home • Cake Ideas & Alternatives • Photography Tips • Siblings • Gifts • Party Manners • Party Favors • Celebrations at Day Care or School • Attending Birthday Parties
Holidays
Start Your Own Holiday Traditions • Hosting a Holiday Meal • Advanced Preparation for the Holidays • Gifts & Holiday Cards • Involve Your Child in the Spirit of Giving • Chanukah • Christmas • Storing Holiday Decorations • New Year's Eve • Valentine's Day • Halloween
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Preserving Memories
Photographs • Videotaping Your Kids • Other Ways to Preserve Memories
Family Rituals & Traditions
CONCLUSION
Selected Bibliography
Index
