| Special Thanks to | p. xi |
| Introduction: Positive Pushing | p. xiii |
| Self-Esteem | p. 1 |
| Aren't I Good Enough for You? | p. 5 |
| Red Flags | p. 8 |
| Developing Your Child's Sense of Security | p. 8 |
| Developing Your Child's Sense of Competence | p. 12 |
| Global Belief | p. 13 |
| Specific Belief | p. 17 |
| Specific Belief Without Global Belief | p. 20 |
| Self-Reflection | p. 22 |
| Accuracy of Self-Perceptions | p. 24 |
| Rules for Achievement and Happiness | p. 27 |
| Can't You Just Love Me for Me? | p. 29 |
| Red Flags | p. 32 |
| Conditional Love | p. 32 |
| Dangling-Carrot Love | p. 34 |
| Creating a Human Doing | p. 36 |
| Unhealthy Parental Expectations | p. 37 |
| Unhealthy Praise and Punishment | p. 42 |
| Being a Bottom-Line Parent | p. 43 |
| Creating a Unidimensional Child | p. 44 |
| Perfectionism | p. 46 |
| Giving Healthy Love | p. 50 |
| Value Love | p. 50 |
| Create a Human Being | p. 50 |
| Healthy Parental Expectations | p. 52 |
| Healthy Praise and Punishment | p. 59 |
| Strive for Excellence | p. 61 |
| Parental Dos and Don'ts | p. 63 |
| Who Is the Real Me? | p. 67 |
| Red Flags | p. 72 |
| Self-Hate | p. 72 |
| Self-Punishment | p. 73 |
| Self-Destruction | p. 74 |
| Developing Your Child's True Self | p. 75 |
| Know the True Self | p. 75 |
| Wage War Against the False Self | p. 77 |
| False Self or True Self: Your Choice | p. 79 |
| Ownership | p. 81 |
| Whose Life Is This, Anyway? | p. 87 |
| Your Needs vs. Your Child's Needs | p. 90 |
| Red Flags | p. 91 |
| Fixing Your Imperfect Self | p. 91 |
| Merging with Your Child | p. 92 |
| Placing Your Happiness on Your Child's Shoulders | p. 95 |
| Losing Perspective | p. 97 |
| Overmatching Your Child | p. 99 |
| Battle of Wills | p. 102 |
| Putting Your Child's Needs First | p. 103 |
| Recognize Your Own Needs | p. 104 |
| Gain and Maintain Perspective | p. 105 |
| Understand Your Child's Needs | p. 107 |
| Avoid the Battle of Wills | p. 108 |
| Challenge Your Child | p. 109 |
| The Sibling Factor | p. 110 |
| Get a Life | p. 111 |
| Control vs. Nurture Your Child | p. 112 |
| Who's in Charge Here? | p. 113 |
| Forced Participation | p. 114 |
| Guided Participation | p. 116 |
| Red Flags | p. 117 |
| Taking Away the Fun | p. 117 |
| Loss of Motivation | p. 117 |
| Find the Fun Again | p. 118 |
| Regaining Motivation | p. 120 |
| Process of Guided Participation | p. 123 |
| Exposure to Achievement Activities | p. 123 |
| Time Management | p. 124 |
| Initial Impetus | p. 128 |
| Provide Resources | p. 130 |
| Commitment | p. 131 |
| Goal Setting | p. 135 |
| Ongoing Encouragement | p. 139 |
| Freedom | p. 140 |
| Your Child's Choice | p. 140 |
| Suggestions for Raising Successful Achievers | p. 142 |
| Why Won't You Let Me Grow Up? | p. 143 |
| Contingent Children | p. 144 |
| Independent Children | p. 147 |
| Parent and Child Responsibilities | p. 149 |
| Your Responsibilities | p. 149 |
| Your Child's Responsibilities | p. 150 |
| Red Flags | p. 150 |
| Pleasers | p. 151 |
| Disappointers | p. 152 |
| Reactors | p. 153 |
| Frustrators | p. 155 |
| Rejecters | p. 156 |
| Being Friends with Your Child | p. 157 |
| Taking on Your Child's Responsibilities | p. 158 |
| Raising an Independent Child | p. 161 |
| Be the Parent | p. 161 |
| Teach Responsibility | p. 162 |
| Demand Accountability | p. 163 |
| Encourage Exploration | p. 165 |
| Respond to Early Warning Signs | p. 167 |
| Life Lessons for Ownership | p. 169 |
| Emotional Mastery | p. 171 |
| Why Am I So Scared? | p. 175 |
| Emotional Threat | p. 175 |
| Emotional Vicious Cycle | p. 176 |
| Fear of Failure | p. 178 |
| Fear of Success | p. 180 |
| Emotional Challenge | p. 182 |
| Emotional Upward Spiral | p. 183 |
| Red Flags | p. 184 |
| Performance Anxiety | p. 184 |
| Punishment Exceeds the Crime | p. 185 |
| Self-Defeating Behavior | p. 186 |
| Safety Zone | p. 188 |
| Unhappy Success | p. 190 |
| Developing Emotional Challenge | p. 191 |
| Value of Success and Failure | p. 192 |
| Risk-Taking | p. 194 |
| Perspective on Mistakes | p. 197 |
| Respond Positively to Adversity | p. 198 |
| Last 5 Percent | p. 199 |
| Emotional Lessons for Achievement | p. 200 |
| Will I Be a Child Forever? | p. 202 |
| Red Flags | p. 204 |
| Immature Attitudes | p. 205 |
| Immature Reactions to Disappointment | p. 207 |
| Immature Reactions to Frustration | p. 208 |
| Immature Anger | p. 209 |
| Emotional Overprotection | p. 210 |
| Assuming Emotional Maturity | p. 211 |
| No Emotions | p. 212 |
| Emotional Maturity | p. 214 |
| Mature Attitudes | p. 215 |
| Mature Reactions to Disappointment | p. 217 |
| Mature Reactions to Frustration | p. 219 |
| Mature Anger | p. 221 |
| Emotionally Mature Parents | p. 223 |
| Don't Forget the Positive Emotions | p. 225 |
| Keys to Emotional Maturity | p. 226 |
| What Can I Do? | p. 227 |
| Emotional Habits | p. 227 |
| Emotional Victims | p. 230 |
| Emotional Masters | p. 231 |
| Red Flags | p. 233 |
| Raising an Emotional Master | p. 234 |
| Parents as Emotional Masters | p. 235 |
| Perspective of Emotional Masters | p. 237 |
| Choosing to Be an Emotional Master | p. 238 |
| Developing Emotional Mastery | p. 239 |
| Emotional Mastery Is a Process | p. 243 |
| Skills for Emotional Mastery | p. 245 |
| Afterword | p. 247 |
| Bibliography | p. 249 |
| Index | p. 257 |
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