Matrimony

A restoration of the village-making power of matrimony, a building of cultural memory, and an examination of meaning-making for our ceremonially adrift time

Public and private rituals are failing this culture. Longtime scholar, storyteller, and ceremonialist Stephen Jenkinson has tracked that failure, along with the personal poverties that have followed, and has set about mending the brokenness—the meaning and connection—one wedding ceremony at a time.

“Matrimony is the place where culture leans on love for its portion, its tithe,” explains Jenkinson. “It is the mothering of culture, and ritual is its vehicle, and patrimony its precursor.” Privatizing love, turning matrimony into a social institution barren of all substance, and flattening rituals into benign, generic celebrations of life erodes our skills as citizen witnesses to a troubled time. The way forward, then, is to learn and reclaim our cultural ceremonies and their meaning.

Among the insights that Stephen Jenkinson offers in this thought-provoking work:
• The place of matrimony and patrimony in modern understandings of romance
• The importance of village rites and rituals
• Old understandings of union, marriage, and matrimony rendered new

Through witty stories, insightful history, and meditative questions, Matrimony invites us to examine the significance of matrimony, ritual, ceremony, and cultural articulation—and how to redeem them for future generations.

About the Author

Stephen Jenkinson, MTS, MSW, is a cultural worker, teacher, author, and ceremonialist. He is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, founded in 2010. He has master’s degrees from Harvard University (theology) and the University of Toronto (social work). He’s the author of Come of Age, the award-winning Die Wise, Money and the Soul’s Desires, and Reckoning (with Kimberly Ann Johnson).