Married at a young age to an older man , neither he nor she doubted that he would predecease her; but she discovers that there is no preparing for the loss a beloved. Their marriage was a passionate 35 year love affair, as if the odds against its longevity engendered a rare intensity.?She discovers that love has no boundaries, grief is not eternal and ?her husband's motto ?Life is a love story? is so very true.
Ascher writes passionately about her unlikely marriage, her husband's illness and death and her ensuing sorrow. A witness to the insanity that grief visits upon its victims with a seeming determination to destroy, she gazes straight into the eye of grief and does not blink. In time she moves beyond that grief - her voyage out.?
Ghosting is, by turns, moving and funny, tender and brutal .
The wonder of Ghosting is that Ascher, like Montaigne, calls forth Everyman.?
About previous books:
Pat Conroy on Dancing In The Dark:
?One of those books that wakes you up to the life you have failed to live,?What a wonderful book.?
Publishers Weekly on The Habit of Loving:?
?With her sharp, unflinching eye, she discovers wonder and truth at our very doorsteps.?
Boston Globe on Landscape Without Gravity:
?Her honesty touches the reader's heart, opens the scars of old wounds, and helps heal them?wrenching, insightful?compelling?
Eudora Welty on Playing After Dark:
"Barbara Ascher has a serious mind and the gift of a light touch."
Industry Reviews
"Love is as strong as death' the Song of Solomon says, and Barbara Ascher's powerful story, brilliantly told, dives headlong into both, taking the reader on a breathtaking adventure - yet one that , in the end, discovers that love may be even stronger than death." -- Elaine Pagels
"So much tenderness resonates in this remarkably frank book about loving and living and dying. You will be gripped by the joyous care and superb telling here." -- Naomi Shihab Nye
"A lovely, deeply felt account of that crucial passage we all hope we will never have to go through - losing a life partner." -- Adam Hochschild
"A beautifully written memoir of marriage, love and death...a contemporary classic that people will give to each other for years to come." -- Amy Hempel