| Acknowledgments | p. ix |
| Foreword | p. xi |
| Introduction | p. 1 |
| Organization of This Book | |
| A Note to Therapists | |
| Understanding Your Critical Inner Voice | |
| Becoming Familiar with Your Critical Inner Voice | p. 9 |
| How Your Critical Inner Voice Controls Your Actions | |
| Being for Yourself or against Yourself | |
| How Did You Develop a Critical Inner Voice? | |
| Your Defenses | |
| The Real You and Your Critical Inner Voice | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Disrupts Your Everyday Life | |
| Challenging the Critical Inner Voice by Taking Action | |
| How Your Critical Inner Voice Creates Shame, Guilt, and Low Self-Esteem | p. 33 |
| Identify When You Are Feeling Shame or Guilt | |
| The Defenses on Which Guilt, Shame, and Low Self-Esteem Are Based | |
| Critical Inner Voices Underlying Neurotic Guilt | |
| Critical Inner Voices Underlying Existential Guilt | |
| Combating Guilt, Shame, and Low Self-Esteem | |
| Challenging The Critical Inner Voice | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Interferes with Your Career | p. 57 |
| How Your Defenses Limit You in Your Career | |
| Identify and Overcome Voices That Interfere with Your Creativity | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Influences Your Relationship | p. 75 |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Interferes with Intimacy | |
| How the Fantasy Bond Works in Relationships | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice and the Fantasy Bond Work Together to Destroy Relationships | |
| Signs of a Fantasy Bond in Your Relationship | |
| Playing the Parent/Playing the Child | |
| How We Defend Ourselves against Love | |
| Three Defenses | |
| Suggestions for Disrupting the Fantasy Bond | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Intrudes on Your Sexual Relationship | p. 97 |
| Two Views of Sex | |
| How Our Attitudes Toward Sex Are Influenced by Parents, Peers, and Society | |
| Attitudes toward Our Bodies | |
| Attitudes about Masturbation and Sex Play | |
| Society's Attitudes about Sexuality | |
| Voices During Sex | |
| How Do You Relate Sexually? Two Kinds of Sex | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Seduces You into Addictive Behaviors | p. 117 |
| How Addictive Behaviors Affect You | |
| How Do We Come to Develop Addictions? | |
| How the Critical Inner Voice Encourages Addictive Behaviors | |
| Eating Disorders, Drug Abuse, and Alcoholism | |
| How Compulsive Activities Can Become Addictive | |
| Guidelines for Challenging Addictive Behaviors | |
| How Listening to Your Critical Inner Voice Can Make You Feel Down and Depressed | p. 135 |
| Have You Ever Been Depressed? | |
| How Do You Usually React to Negative Events in Your Life? | |
| What Does It Feel Like to Be Depressed? | |
| The Continuum of Self-Destructive Behaviors and Critical Inner Voices | |
| Combating Critical Inner Voices That Lead to Depression | |
| Steps for Challenging Depression | |
| How to Select a Therapist | p. 163 |
| Factors to Consider in Making Your Choice | |
| Personal Qualities of the Therapist That Are Conducive to Good Therapy | |
| The Therapeutic Relationship | |
| Guidelines for Living the "Good Life" | |
| For Parents: Guidelines for Optimal Child Development | p. 171 |
| Repeating Our Parents' Behaviors | |
| Guilt about Not Always Feeling Love | |
| Guidelines for Child Rearing | |
| Living Free of Imagined Limitations--The "Good Life" | p. 187 |
| What Does "Living the Good Life" Mean to You? | |
| Guidelines for Continued Personal Development | |
| Guidelines for Continued Personal Development in Your Relationship | |
| Guidelines for Further Developing a Meaningful Life | |
| Bibliography: Glendon Association Video Productions | p. 201 |
| Suggested Reading | p. 207 |
| References | p. 215 |
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