The Velvet Rage

Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

By: Alan Downs

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Paperback | 5 June 2012 | Edition Number 1

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In this moving guide, a gay man shares his personal journey of letting go of shame and moving forward with self-compassion and healing.

Even though an entire generation of men have openly and freely come out of the closet, gay men still struggle with self-acceptance. Sexually transmitted diseases, depression, and suicide occur more frequently for gay men than straight men. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Through brave individual stories and compassionate analysis, The Velvet Rage explores how shame is insidious, and can be traced back to childhood feelings of “otherness”. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, Alan Downs offers a path to emotional well-being and an end to self-defeating behavior.

Velvet Rage is an empowering book you'll wish you read long ago. It’s not too late to begin the healing process.

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Philadelphia Gay News bestseller, 5/11/12 "A groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality, why it leads to shame over one's identity and how to overcome it. This book has remarkable staying power." Artvoice, 11/26/15 "The clearest, most succinct delineation of the origins and consequences of internalized homophobia, and how to address them."

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Non-Fiction Society & Culture Social Groups Gay & Lesbian Studies Gay Studies for Gay Men Psychology Gender Studies Gender Studies: Men and Boys

Preface to the 2012 Edition	p. ix
Introduction	p. 1
The Roots of Rage	p. 7
The Little Boy with the Big Secret	p. 9
Ugly Truths & High-Fashion Dreams	p. 19
Out&Raging	p. 31
Overwhelmed by Shame	p. 39
Drowning	p. 41
Bewitched, Betrayed	p. 55
The Real Me: A Crisis of Identity	p. 63
Compensating for Shame	p. 71
Paying the Piper	p. 73
Stuck in Shame: The Vicious Cycle	p. 85
In the Mood for a Man	p. 93
What's It All About? A Crisis of Meaning	p. 103
Cultivating Authenticity	p. 107
Mighty Real	p. 109
Healing Relationship Trauma	p. 121
The Road to Contentment	p. 155
Skills for Living an Authentic Life	p. 167
Epilogue: This Peter Pan Grows Up	p. 221
Notes	p. 239
Acknowledgments	p. 241
Index	p. 243
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