Preface xii
About the Authors xv
1 Introduction to the Facilitation and Activity Guide 1
Emotional Intelligence Defined and Research Overview 1
Planning Your Classes 4
Student Reflection 4
Student Emotional Intelligence Assessment 5
Facilitating Class Discussions 5
Agree-Disagree Activities 6
Organization of This Guide 7
Materials 8
A Note About Language 9
2 Case Studies of Emotionally Intelligent (and Not Emotionally Intelligent!) Behavior 11
Case Study #1: Why Can’t I Make an A? 13
Case Study #2: 15 Years to Graduate 14
Case Study #3: But I’m Good! 15
Case Study #4: Starting College 16
Case Study #5: Shared Responsibilities 17
Case Study #6: A Costly Decision 18
Case Study #7: First Job Jitters 19
Case Study #8: No Way 21
Case Study #9: Twins? 22
3 Emotional Self-Awareness 25
Student Learning Outcomes 26
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 26
Planning Your Class 27
Activity 3.1: Feelings Journal 30
Worksheet 3.1: Feelings Journal 31
Activity 3.2: Hot Buttons 32
Worksheet 3.2: Hot Buttons 33
Activity 3.3: ABCDE Exercise—The Impact of Thoughts on Emotions and Behaviors 34
Worksheet 3.3: ABCDE Exercise—The Impact of Thoughts on Emotions and Behaviors 35
Activity 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 37
Worksheet 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 38
Activity 3.5: Positive and Negative Affect 39
Worksheet 3.5: Positive and Negative Affect 40
Activity 3.6: Self-Development Plan for Emotional Self-Awareness 40
Activity 3.7: Case Study—Emotional Self-Awareness 40
4 Self-Regard 41
Student Learning Outcomes 42
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 42
Planning Your Class 43
Activity 4.1: Who Am I? 45
Worksheet 4.1: Who Am I? 46
Activity 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 47
Worksheet 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 48
Activity 4.3: Positive and Negative Self-Talk 51
Worksheet 4.3: Positive and Negative Self-Talk 53
Activity 4.4: 360° Feedback 54
Worksheet 4.4: 360° Feedback 55
Activity 4.5: Modern Family 56
Worksheet 4.5: Modern Family 57
Activity 4.6: Self-Development Plan for Self-Regard 57
Activity 4.7: Case Study—Self-Regard 57
5 Self-Actualization 59
Student Learning Outcomes 60
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 60
Planning Your Class 61
Activity 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 63
Worksheet 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 64
Activity 5.2: Emotions Meter 65
Worksheet 5.2: Emotions Meter 66
Activity 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs—A Window into You! 67
Worksheet 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs—A Window into You! 68
Activity 5.4: Defining Your Personal Mission Statement 69
Worksheet 5.4: Defining Your Personal Mission Statement 70
Activity 5.5: The Amazing Race 71
Worksheet 5.5: The Amazing Race 72
Activity 5.6: Self-Development Plan for Self-Actualization 72
Activity 5.7: Case Study—Self-Actualization 72
6 Emotional Expression 73
Student Learning Outcomes 74
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 74
Planning Your Class 75
Activity 6.1: Observing Emotions 78
Worksheet 6.1: Observing Emotions 80
Activity 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 81
Worksheet 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 82
Activity 6.3: Follow the Leader 83
Worksheet 6.3: Follow the Leader 84
Activity 6.4: “I” Messages 87
Worksheet 6.4: “I” Messages 88
Activity 6.5: TV Emotions 90
Worksheet 6.5: TV Emotions 91
Activity 6.6: Self-Development Plan for Emotional Expression 92
Activity 6.7: Case Study—Emotional Expression 92
7 Independence 93
Student Learning Outcomes 94
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 94
Planning Your Class 95
Activity 7.1: Private Eye 98
Worksheet 7.1: Private Eye 99
Activity 7.2: By Yourself 100
Worksheet 7.2: By Yourself 101
Activity 7.3: Please Do This for Me! 102
Worksheet 7.3: Please Do This for Me! 103
Activity 7.4: Reality TV—Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 104
Worksheet 7.4: Reality TV—Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 105
Activity 7.5: On My Own 106
Worksheet 7.5: On My Own 107
Activity 7.6: Self-Development Plan for Independence 108
Activity 7.7: Case Study—Independence 108
8 Assertiveness 109
Student Learning Outcomes 110
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 110
Planning Your Class 111
Activity 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 114
Worksheet 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 115
Activity 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 117
Worksheet 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 119
Activity 8.3: Giving Feedback 120
Worksheet 8.3: Giving Feedback 121
Activity 8.4: Controversial Issues 122
Worksheet 8.4: Controversial Issues 123
Activity 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 124
Worksheet 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 125
Activity 8.6: Self-Development Plan for Assertiveness 127
Activity 8.7: Case Study—Assertiveness 127
9 Interpersonal Relationship 129
Student Learning Outcomes 130
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 130
Planning Your Class 131
Activity 9.1: My Favorite Person 134
Worksheet 9.1: My Favorite Person 135
Activity 9.2: Sharing Secrets 136
Worksheet 9.2: Sharing Secrets 137
Activity 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 138
Worksheet 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 139
Activity 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 140
Worksheet 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 141
Activity 9.5: Getting Closer 142
Worksheet 9.5: Getting Closer 143
Activity 9.6: Self-Development Plan for Interpersonal Relationships 143
Activity 9.7: Case Study—Interpersonal Relationships 143
10 Empathy 145
Student Learning Outcomes 146
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 146
Planning Your Class 147
Activity 10.1: What Is Empathy? 149
Worksheet 10.1: What Is Empathy? 150
Activity 10.2: The Art of Questions 151
Worksheet 10.2: The Art of Questions 152
Activity 10.3: Reflective Listening 153
Worksheet 10.3: Reflective Listening 154
Activity 10.4: Empathy Assessment 155
Worksheet 10.4: Empathy Assessment 156
Activity 10.5: Listening Even When It’s Hard to Do! 159
Worksheet 10.5: Listening Even When It’s Hard to Do! 160
Activity 10.6: Self-Development Plan for Empathy 161
Activity 10.7: Case Study—Empathy 161
11 Social Responsibility 163
Student Learning Outcomes 164
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 164
Planning Your Class 165
Activity 11.1: Doing What’s Right 168
Worksheet 11.1: Doing What’s Right 169
Activity 11.2: Cooperation 170
Worksheet 11.2: Cooperation 171
Activity 11.3: A Company’s Social Responsibility Policy 172
Worksheet 11.3: A Company’s Social Responsibility Policy 173
Activity 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 174
Worksheet 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 175
Activity 11.5: Take Action! 176
Worksheet 11.5: Take Action! 177
Activity 11.6: Self-Development Plan for Social Responsibility 177
Activity 11.7: Case Study—Social Responsibility 177
12 Reality Testing 179
Student Learning Outcomes 181
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 181
Planning Your Class 182
Activity 12.1: My Big Decision 184
Worksheet 12.1: My Big Decision 185
Activity 12.2: The Mirrors Around You 186
Worksheet 12.2: The Mirrors Around You 187
Activity 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 189
Worksheet 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 190
Activity 12.4: Decision-Making Interviews 191
Worksheet 12.4: Decision-Making Interviews 192
Activity 12.5: Reality-Testing Scenarios 192
Worksheet 12.5: Reality-Testing Scenarios 193
Activity 12.6: Self-Development Plan for Reality Testing 194
Activity 12.7: Case Study—Reality Testing 194
13 Problem Solving 195
Student Learning Outcomes 196
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 196
Planning Your Class 197
Activity 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 199
Worksheet 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 200
Activity 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 201
Worksheet 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 202
Activity 13.3: Solving Your Problems 203
Worksheet 13.3: Solving Your Problems 204
Activity 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 205
Worksheet 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 206
Activity 13.5: One Fine Day 207
Worksheet 13.5: One Fine Day 208
Activity 13.6: Self-Development Plan for Problem Solving 208
Activity 13.7: Case Study—Problem Solving 208
14 Impulse Control 209
Student Learning Outcomes 210
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 210
Planning Your Class 212
Activity 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 214
Worksheet 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 215
Activity 14.2: But I Want 216
Worksheet 14.2: But I Want 217
Activity 14.3: Survivor 218
Worksheet 14.3: Survivor 218
Activity 14.4: No Regrets? 219
Worksheet 14.4: No Regrets? 220
Activity 14.5: Strategies for Success 221
Worksheet 14.5: Strategies for Success 222
Activity 14.6: Self-Development Plan for Impulse Control 222
Activity 14.7: Case Study—Impulse Control 222
15 Flexibility 223
Student Learning Outcomes 224
Suggested Books, Movies, and Television Shows 224
Planning Your Class 225
Activity 15.1: Reflections About Change 227
Worksheet 15.1: Reflections About Change 228
Activity 15.2: Flexibility Survey 229
Worksheet 15.2: Flexibility Survey 230
Activity 15.3: The Price of Inflexibility 231
Worksheet 15.3: The Price of Inflexibility 232
Activity 15.4: Stretching Yourself 233
Worksheet 15.4: Stretching Yourself 234
Activity 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 235
Worksheet 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 236
Activity 15.6: Self-Development Plan for Flexibility 237
Activity 15.7: Case Study—Flexibility 237
16 Stress Tolerance 239
A Note About This Chapter 240
Student Learning Outcomes 240
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 241
Planning Your Class 242
Activity 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 244
Worksheet 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 245
Activity 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 246
Worksheet 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 247
Activity 16.3: Irrational Thinking and Stress 248
Worksheet 16.3: Irrational Thinking and Stress 249
Activity 16.4: Resources for Coping 250
Worksheet 16.4: Resources for Coping 251
Activity 16.5: Stress Busters 252
Worksheet 16.5: Stress Busters 253
Activity 16.6: Self-Development Plan for Stress Tolerance 253
Activity 16.7: Case Study—Stress Tolerance 253
17 Optimism 255
Student Learning Outcomes 256
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 256
Planning Your Class 257
Activity 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 259
Worksheet 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 260
Activity 17.2: De-motivators—Watch Your Self-Talk 261
Worksheet 17.2: De-motivators—Watch Your Self-Talk 262
Activity 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 263
Worksheet 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 264
Activity 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 265
Worksheet 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 266
Activity 17.5: Perseverance Defined 267
Worksheet 17.5: Perseverance Defined 268
Activity 17.6: Self-Development Plan for Optimism 269
Activity 17.7: Case Study—Optimism 269
18 Happiness 271
Student Learning Outcomes 272
Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 272
Planning Your Class 273
Activity 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 275
Worksheet 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 276
Activity 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 277
Worksheet 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 278
Activity 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 279
Worksheet 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 280
Activity 18.4: Well-Being Indicators 281
Worksheet 18.4: Well-Being Indicators 282
Activity 18.5: The Pursuit of Happyness 283
Worksheet 18.5: The Pursuit of Happyness 284
Activity 18.6: One Commitment—Self-Development Plan for Happiness 284
Activity 18.7: Case Study—Happiness 284
References 285
Appendix A Model Syllabus 287
Appendix B Sample Grading Rubric for EI Reflection Questions 291
Appendix C Movie Selections for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 293
Appendix D Self-Development Plan for Improving Emotional Intelligence 301
Appendix E Resources for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 303
