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The Sibling Bond

By: Michael Kahn, Stephen Bank

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Paperback | 1 May 2003 | Edition Number 1

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Updated with a new introduction by the authors, this anniversary edition shows the sibling relationship as a distinctive emotional, passionate, painful, and solacing power that shapes who we are and who we become. The relationships among brothers and sisters are infinitely varied-a sibling can be one's worst enemy or closest companion. Though their love or hate, envy or compassion, and closeness or rivalry are formed in childhood, these bonds last throughout life, creating character and affecting behavior in numerous situations. Strangely, this profound attachment-second only to the parent-child bond-was rarely studied or understood until recently, perhaps because the feelings siblings have about each other are usually both intense and secret. Bank and Kahn chart this unknown territory, offering a theory of the ways in which siblings attach, create each other's identities, and affect the course of each other's lives. Illustrated with poignant portraits of brothers and sisters in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, this book provides a profound understanding of these complex and enduring relationships, examining the influence of childhood intimacy, parental behavior, family turmoil, birth order, and gender. Based on more than twenty years of research and clinical evidence, The Sibling Bond fifteenth anniversary edition brings fresh insight to important clinical and theoretical issues, including attachment theory, the development of the self, and the emergence of sexual identity. While Bank and Kahn demonstrate the implications of their findings for both individual and family therapy, they also give readers a vivid opportunity to recognize and reflect on their own sibling relationships.

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Acknowledgments	p. xi
Introduction	p. xv
Unraveling the Sibling Bond	p. 3
Previous Research on Siblings	p. 5
Sibling Access	p. 9
The Sibling Bond	p. 15
Why the Sibling Bond Develops	p. 18
Attachment and Separation in Early Childhood	p. 20
The Parents' Influence on Role and Identity	p. 21
Attachment: Early Sibling Dependence	p. 27
Emotional Closeness and Interdependence	p. 38
Twins: The Special Case of Close and Intense Siblings	p. 39
Conclusion	p. 46
Childhood and Adolescence: The Struggle for Separate Identities	p. 48
Sibling Twosomes	p. 50
Yardsticks and Social Comparison: The Looking-Glass Self	p. 52
Private and Public Worlds: Levels of Intimacy	p. 59
How Siblings' Personalities Fit: Complementarity	p. 62
The Impact of Change and Identification between Siblings	p. 63
Perceptions of Sameness and Difference	p. 68
Lack of Change	p. 73
Conclusion	p. 82
Patterns of Identification and Sibling Relationships	p. 84
Close Identification	p. 86
Partial Identification	p. 93
Distant Identification	p. 104
Acts of Sacrifice: Loyalty and Caring	p. 112
Hansel and Gretel	p. 112
Reciprocal Loyalty	p. 114
One-Way Loyalty: Being "My Brother's Keeper"	p. 125
The Receiving Child	p. 138
Conclusion	p. 141
The Sexual Influence of Siblings	p. 143
Biological Endowment and Identity Differences	p. 144
Sexual Confusion	p. 148
Sexual Modeling and Pioneering	p. 149
Delayed and Precocious Older Siblings	p. 150
Sexuality between Brothers and Sisters	p. 154
Playful Curiosity	p. 155
Brother-Sister Love	p. 157
Sibling Incest	p. 166
Conclusion	p. 195
Siblings in Conflict: Bonds of Aggression and Rivalry	p. 197
Positive Aspects of Fighting in Childhood	p. 198
The Powerful Parents	p. 201
Struggles for Superiority in Adolescence and Adulthood	p. 219
Mechanisms for the Containment of Sibling Aggression	p. 224
Satisfactions in Sibling Aggression	p. 227
The Embroiled Family: "Well" and "Disturbed" Siblings	p. 232
How Parents Arrange Relationships	p. 235
The Well Sibling's Role	p. 238
Disturbing Mirrors of the Self	p. 250
The Price of Being Normal	p. 258
The Well Sibling's Sense of Responsibility	p. 264
Siblings as Survivors: Bonds beyond the Grave	p. 271
Parental Influence on the Grief of the Surviving Sibling	p. 272
Circumstances of a Sibling's Dying	p. 278
Previous Identification and Pathological Mourning	p. 282
Destructive Ramifications of a Sibling's Death	p. 287
Positive Resolutions of Sibling Death	p. 291
Conclusion	p. 294
Psychotherapy with Siblings	p. 296
Problems for the Psychotherapist	p. 298
Assessing Sibling Issues in Therapy	p. 306
Sibling-Specific Techniques in Individual and Family Therapy	p. 313
Conclusion	p. 334
Epilogue	p. 335
Bibliography	p. 337
Index	p. 349
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