| Introduction | p. xiii |
| Seeing the Problem | |
| How to Use The Grief Recovery Handbook | p. 2 |
| Grief: A Neglected and Misunderstood Process | p. 3 |
| Grief and Recovery | p. 6 |
| Staying Open to Grief | p. 7 |
| Grief Recovery: How Does It Work? | p. 8 |
| An Incomplete Past May Doom the Future | p. 9 |
| Compounding the Problem | p. 11 |
| Confusion About Stages | p. 11 |
| What About Anger? | p. 12 |
| Common Responses | p. 13 |
| Getting Over or Getting Complete | p. 15 |
| When Is It Time to Begin to Recover? | p. 16 |
| Suicide, Murder, AIDS, and Other Tragic Circumstances | p. 18 |
| The "G" Word | p. 19 |
| Survivor: Another Inaccurate Word | p. 20 |
| There Is Nothing Wrong with You | p. 21 |
| We Are Ill Prepared to Deal with Loss | p. 23 |
| We're Taught How to Acquire Things, Not What to Do When We Lose Them | p. 24 |
| We're Taught Myths About Dealing with Grief | p. 26 |
| Participating in Your Own Recovery | p. 35 |
| Loss of Trust | p. 36 |
| Practice Makes Habits | p. 37 |
| Others Are Ill Prepared to Help Us Deal with Loss | p. 39 |
| They Don't Know What to Say | p. 39 |
| They're Afraid of Our Feelings | p. 41 |
| They Try to Change the Subject | p. 42 |
| They Intellectualize | p. 43 |
| They Don't Hear Us | p. 45 |
| They Don't Want to Talk About Death | p. 46 |
| Professional Distortions | p. 47 |
| They Want Us to Keep Our Faith | p. 49 |
| Academy Award Recovery | p. 52 |
| Enshrine or Bedevil? | p. 53 |
| We Want the Approval of Others | p. 54 |
| "I'm Fine" Is Often a Lie | p. 55 |
| We Begin to Experience a Massive Loss of Energy | p. 56 |
| We Experience a Loss of Aliveness | p. 57 |
| Preparing for Change: Starting to Recover | |
| Your First Choice: Choosing to Recover | p. 61 |
| Who Is Responsible? | p. 62 |
| Your Second Choice: Partnership or Working Alone | p. 66 |
| Finding a Partner | p. 67 |
| Setting the Guidelines | p. 69 |
| Initial Partners Meeting | p. 69 |
| Making Commitments | p. 70 |
| First Homework Assignment | p. 72 |
| Review Thoughts and Reminders | p. 74 |
| Second Partners Meeting | p. 75 |
| Identifying Short-Term Energy Relievers | p. 77 |
| Short-Term Relief Doesn't Work | p. 79 |
| Identifying Your Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors | p. 81 |
| Second Homework Assignment | p. 82 |
| Third Partners Meeting | p. 83 |
| The Loss History Graph | p. 85 |
| Compare and Minimize | p. 86 |
| Loss History Graph Examples | p. 86 |
| What Goes on the Loss History Graph | p. 97 |
| Third Homework Assignment: Preparing Your Loss History Graph | p. 98 |
| Time and Intensity | p. 100 |
| Learning from Your Loss History Graph | p. 102 |
| Fourth Partners Meeting | p. 103 |
| Finding the Solution | |
| What Is Incompleteness? | p. 109 |
| How to Identify What Is Incomplete | p. 111 |
| Choosing a Loss to Complete | p. 113 |
| More Help Choosing the First Loss to Work On and Questions about Other Losses | p. 114 |
| Introducing the Relationship Graph | p. 115 |
| The Relationship Graph Is Different from the Loss History Graph | p. 115 |
| Completing Is Not Forgetting | p. 116 |
| Accurate Memory Pictures: Your Part | p. 117 |
| Truth Is the Key to Recovery | p. 118 |
| Even Long Illnesses End in Unfinished Business | p. 119 |
| Hopes, Dreams, and Expectations | p. 120 |
| The Relationship Graph | p. 122 |
| Fourth Homework Assignment: Making Your Relationship Graph | p. 129 |
| Dawn of Memory-the Death of an Infant | p. 130 |
| Fifth Partners Meeting | p. 134 |
| Almost Home: Converting the Relationship Graph into Recovery Components | p. 136 |
| Apologies | p. 136 |
| Victims Have Difficulty with Apologies | p. 137 |
| Forgiveness | p. 138 |
| Significant Emotional Statements | p. 140 |
| Fifth Homework Assignment: Putting It All Together | p. 142 |
| Sixth Partners Meeting | p. 143 |
| Moving from Discovery to Completion | p. 145 |
| Final Homework Assignment: The Grief Recovery Completion Letter<$$$> | p. 145 |
| Important Note | p. 151 |
| Final Partners Meeting: Reading Your Letter | p. 151 |
| What Does Completion Mean? | p. 155 |
| Stuck on a Painful Image | p. 157 |
| What About New Discoveries? Cole's Window Story | p. 158 |
| More Help with Relationship Graphs and Completion Letters | p. 160 |
| What Now? | p. 161 |
| Cleanup Work | p. 162 |
| More on Choices and Other Losses | |
| More on Choices-Which Loss to Work on First | p. 169 |
| Start with Relationships You Remember | p. 169 |
| Other First Choice Concerns: Hidden or Disguised Choices | p. 171 |
| Guidelines for Working on Specific Losses | p. 174 |
| Death or Absence of Parent from an Early Age | p. 174 |
| Infant Loss and Infertility | p. 178 |
| Alzheimer's-Dementia | p. 179 |
| Growing Up in an Alcoholic or Otherwise Dysfunctional Home | p. 181 |
| Unique Loss Graphing Situations: Faith, Career, Health, Moving | p. 182 |
| Moving | p. 194 |
| Miscellaneous Tips | p. 197 |
| The Final Word | p. 201 |
| The Grief Recovery Institute: Services and Programs | p. 203 |
| Acknowledgments | p. 206 |
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