How identifying the things you long for which fall into five basic categories--can reveal deep truths about yourself, and how to work with these Five Longings to live in a happier, more satisfying way.
Understanding what you want is often thought to be the starting point for getting what you want, but Dave Richo disagrees. Dave asserts rather that understanding what you feel strong desire for is really the starting point to transcending that desire in order to live with greater honesty, compassion, and happiness. The "Five Longings" according to Dave have to do with wanting: (1) Love, (2) Meaning, (3) Freedom, (4) Happiness, or (5) Growth. These five manifest in all sorts of different ways, as he shows, but what they all have in common is that they're basically unattainable in a way that's permanently satisfying.
They're always elusive. But if you examine them you begin to see that the very fact that they're unattainable becomes the gate through which true joy is discovered. He shows you how.
About the Author
David Richo, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist, teacher, and writer who draws on Jungian, Buddhist, and poetic perspectives in his work. He leads popular workshops at the Esalen Institute, the University of California at Berkeley, the University of California at Santa Barbara, and Santa Barbara City College. He is the author of How To Be An Adult, How To Be An Adult In Relationships, and Shadow Dance: Liberating The Power and Creativity Of Your Dark Side. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.
Industry Reviews
"David Richo has returned to us our very own longings. He shows us how they can reveal what it means to be truly human. Held with discernment and released from the requirement of a specific outcome, longings can be instructive guides on the path. The blind pursuit of "more" is usually a corrosive fuel, but Richo demonstrates how holding our longings for more can be evolutionary. Paradoxically, we can experience them within us as " the riches of enough." Finally, he reminds us that we are longing for what we already have and are: What a liberating discovery! This rich harvest is conveyed with clarity and illustrated with wonderful poetry ranging from Shakespeare and Dickenson to Frost and Lowell."--Joseph Bobrow, Roshi, Ph.D. author of Zen And Psychotherapy: Partners In Liberation
"David Richo selected a fascinating topic for The Five Longings. He skillfully and beautifully clarifies the often confusing differences between healthy, necessary longings and the painful alleyways of desire and addiction. The book offers both a broad vision of the topic and precise suggestions for handling the powerful energies of longing." -- Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness
"The Five Longings is a beautifully crafted contemplative journey that leads the reader home to the felt experience of our human heart. In choosing to explore the subject of longing, author David Richo has illuminated a topic that is intimately familiar but rarely understood. This book is an invaluable resource for anyone yearning to live with greater presence and compassion." -Susan Gillis Chapman, author of Five Keys to Mindful Communication