The Father You Get

And the Ones You Make, Believe In, and Become

By: Patton Dodd

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Hardcover | 23 September 2025

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240 Pages

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In this intimate memoir, Patton Dodd reflects on fatherhood and our fraught relationship with the fathers in our lives, exploring four different archetypes: the fathers we are given, encounter, create, or become.

In a world of imperfect-at-best and bad-at-worst dads, what is the ideal of fatherhood we aspire to? Why does this ideal exist?

What is it about fathers and father figures that looms so large in the lives of so many? So wonders Patton Dodd in this intimate reflection and memoir in which he wrestles with a dad-sized hole, the gap between the father he yearned to have and the father he gotâ"an absent-while-present alcoholic whose unreliability caused chaos for everyone around him.

This struggle with the father he was given led to a variety of substituted: fathers he created, from an imaginary "Papa Friend" to male mentors he turned into father figures. Then theres the father he believed in, a Heavenly Father, made present by the steadfast and stubborn faith of his earthly mother. And finally, there is the father Dodd became when he had his own children, an experience that led him to track down the source and mystery of the father he got.

Throughout, Dodds story resonates for anyone who struggles with the fathers they got, the fathers they wish they had--and anyone struggling to become the parent they hope to be.

A lyrical, emotional meditation on the failures and glories of dadhood, The Father You Get is an extended wrestling match with the mysteries of a distant parental figure and an attempt to bridge the gap between the fathers we get and the fathers our hearts yearn for.

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