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Is It Love or Is It Addiction

The book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy

By: Brenda Schaeffer

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Paperback | 1 July 2009 | Edition Number 3

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A fresh, updated, and expanded edition of the book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy.

Many of us confuse longing and obsession with true love. Through two previous editions, Is It Love or Is It Addiction? has helped countless people find their way from the trials and confusion of addictive love to the fulfillment of whole and healthy relationships. As the author reveals, we can begin to work through relationship difficulties with compassion and lasting effect by increasing our awareness of the ways that we express love. In this expanded third edition, Brenda Schaeffer draws on years of feedback and new developments to foster an understanding of love addiction: what it is and what it is not, how to identify it, and, even more important, how to break free of it. Stories of real people struggling to develop sound relationships illustrate the characteristics of healthy love and help readers to free themselves to find real intimacy. Included is the most up-to-date information about the biological basis of addictive behaviors and the impact of technology on intimate relationships. The author also explores the influence of past abuse and trauma on the predisposition to love addiction.

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Preface	p. xiii
Acknowledgments	p. xv
Introduction	p. 1
The Reality of Addictive Love
The Power of Love	p. 7
Healthy Love	p. 7
Addiction	p. 10
Addictive Love	p. 13
Three Types of Addictive Love	p. 14
Love and the Unconscious Mind	p. 20
The Roots of Addictive Love	p. 23
The Role of Biology	p. 23
The Role of Culture	p. 32
The Role of Technology	p. 35
The Role of Spiritual Quests	p. 37
Self-Actualization	p. 38
The Role of Psychology	p. 40
The Psychology of Addictive Love	p. 43
A Psychological Understanding of Dependencies	p. 43
The Child Within: Addictive Dependency	p. 46
The Myths behind Addictive Love	p. 47
Addictive Love as a Response to Trauma	p. 50
How Do I Love Thee?
Love Addiction	p. 59
Identifying Love Addiction	p. 60
Love Addiction and Health	p. 61
Twenty Signs of Love Addiction	p. 63
Power Plays	p. 91
Power	p. 91
The Beginnings of Power Plays	p. 92
Twenty-Three Power Plays	p. 93
Options	p. 97
The Goal: Mutual Respect	p. 98
Romance Addiction	p. 101
Romantic Love	p. 101
Romance Is Addicting	p. 103
Emotional Affairs	p. 104
Twenty Signs of Romance Addiction	p. 104
Sex Addiction	p. 129
Dark Eros	p. 129
Sex as an Addiction	p. 130
What Is Sexual Addiction?	p. 131
Twenty Signs of Sexual Addiction/Compulsivity	p. 133
Moving On	p. 156
Hope for Tomorrow
Healthy Belonging	p. 159
Our Need for Others	p. 159
Twenty Signs of Healthy Belonging	p. 160
Power Sharing	p. 181
From Addiction to Love	p. 185
The Way Out	p. 186
Out of Addiction and into Healthy Love: The Process	p. 187
From Addiction to Healthy Love: A Story	p. 196
Sometimes, We Need to Let Go	p. 203
Helping Yourself Out of Addictive Love	p. 209
The Self-Help Method	p. 211
Awareness Exercise: Admitting That Addictive Love Plays a Role in Your Life	p. 212
Assessment Exercises: Discovering the Extent of Your Addiction	p. 212
Decision Exercises: Using Your Personal Power to Move Out of Addiction	p. 219
Exploration Exercises: Examining Your Personal Fears, Myths, and Trauma History	p. 222
Reprogramming Exercises: Letting Go of the Old, Embracing the New	p. 227
Renewal Exercises: Moving toward Mature Love	p. 234
Expansion Exercises: Developing Personal Uniqueness	p. 247
Notes	p. 251
Bibliography	p. 257
Resources for Further Information	p. 263
Resources for Support	p. 265
Index	p. 267
About the Author	p. 275
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Is It Love or Is It Addiction

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