How Do We Tell the Children?

A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children and Teens Cope When Someone Dies

By: Dan Schaefer, Christine Lyons

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Paperback | 12 October 2022 | Edition Number 4

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Many children's lives are touched by a serious illness within their families, and some will be faced with the loss of a parent or grandparent, or the death of a sibling or beloved pet. How can adults help young people cope with these losses How do they explain and console in language that a child can understand

Dr. Daniel Schaefer, working with child psychologists and trauma experts, and drawing on more than three decades of experience with families in crisis, has written a practical guide for anyone who works or lives with children—parents, caregivers, counselors, or teachers—to respond to their inevitable questions about loss and change, life and death. He provides strategies to assist children with grief and trauma and offers time-tested advice and language that children can understand.

How Do We Tell the Children

Now in its fourth edition, this classic guide includes new material on:

dealing with the traumatic stress of a large-scale catastrophe
handling the repercussions of school violence
helping grandparents manage as caregivers
advising employers about how to support employees going through a family loss.

The book also features an expanded quick-reference Crisis Section with conversation scripts and up-to-date resources, including websites, publications, and support groups.

Industry Reviews

"This valuable book should have a place in every home…written simply and clearly."—David Peretz, M.D., Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University

"Parents need this clear, extremely readable guide…Highly recommended."-"Library Journal"

"Outstanding…A real contribution."—Rabbi Earl A. Grollman, D.D., author of "Explaining Death to Children"

"An extraordinary book…Useful and practical."—Candlelighters Childhood Cancer Foundation

"A valuable gift to many bereaved families."-"The American Funeral Director"

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Non-Fiction Family & Health Coping with / Advice about Personal, Social & Health Topics Coping with / Advice about Death & Bereavement Parenting: Advice & Issues Sociology & Anthropology Sociology Psychology Child & Developmental Psychology Relationships & Families: Advice & Issues

Preface	p. xi
Foreword	p. xiii
Introduction: The Solitary Mourner	p. 1
What Children Think About Death	p. 11
Two to Six Years	p. 16
Six to Nine Years	p. 20
Nine to Twelve Years	p. 21
Teenagers	p. 24
Explaining Death to Children	p. 26
Death of a Grandparent	p. 27
Death Of an Immediate Family Member (Mother, Father, Sibling)	p. 41
Infant Death	p. 47
Death of a Friend or Classmate	p. 55
Accidental Death	p. 58
Murder	p. 59
Suicide	p. 62
Aids	p. 70
How to Talk to Children about Someone who is zDying	p. 79
How to Talk to a Mentally Retarded Child	p. 91
Death of a Pet	p. 93
Grief and Healing	p. 95
Common Reactions to Grief	p. 98
The Special Needs of Children	p. 103
The Grieving Process	p. 106
Problems to be Prepared for at Various Ages	p. 112
Dealing with Anger, Guilt, and Responsibility	p. 119
Helping your Child to Heal	p. 124
Expectations for the Grieving Child and the Best Ways to Respond	p. 131
Traumatic Stress	p. 139
One Personal Experience of Trauma	p. 144
Schools and Trauma	p. 155
The Funeral-Finding a Way to Say Good-bye	p. 158
Telling Children what to Expect	p. 161
A Good-Bye Gift	p. 165
Questions your Child Might Ask	p. 167
"Life Goes On"	p. 169
Crisis Checklist	p. 171
Bibliography and Support Groups	p. 187
Index	p. 197
About the Authors	p. 203
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How Do We Tell the Children?

A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children and Teens Cope When Someone Dies

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