A breakthrough guide, highlighting for the first time how executive functioning can be used in everyday parenting
What if simply relaxing and having fun with your kids is actually the best thing you can do for them? As it turns out, science says that it is. In How Children Thrive, Dr.Mark Bertin provides a comprehensive resource for parenting children of all ages.
A pediatrician and parent himself, Dr.Bertin teaches that by understanding healthy developmental stages, parents are better able to support their child’s well-being.Using new insights from the science of executive functioning (those skills that help us self-regulate and achieve goals), Dr.Bertin shows us that a supportive, fun, growth-promoting environment—not a hovering, high-pressure, overprotective one—is what kids actually need to thrive.
Parents will learn to: create simple routines that support independence in everything from homework to sleep; incorporate mindfulness practices for the whole family; understand the scientific benefits of free play; use developmental markers to know whether a child is maturing normally or needs professional support; and much more.
"The great challenge of parenting is that children don't come with an instruction manual. Dr. Mark Bertin helps to rectify that, with insights and information about how your child's brain and nervous system operate and develop as they progress from dependence to independence to interdependence. The advice in this user's manual is gentle and empowering and definitely something you can try at home." --Barry Boyce, editor-in-chief of Mindful magazine and mindful.org
"Dr. Bertin reminds parents that with just a little gentle letting go (of perfectionism, consumerism), and inviting in (of mindfulness, self-compassion), they will discover that they already have the tools and wisdom they need to help their children and teens thrive!" --Dzung X. Vo, MD, FAAP, author of The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time
"Dr. Bertin has done it again, laying out an empowering, positive, and most of all fun pathway to resilient kids and families." --Chris Willard, PsyD, author of Growing Up Mindful
"Dr. Bertin is a reassuring, practical, compassionate, and humble guide through the complex territory of parenting. Better yet, he provides readers with a reliable compass for navigating all our modern parenting dilemmas. This compass--executive function--allows us to navigate the varied developmental terraineach of our children traverses on their way to healthy adulthood--home life, school, play, extracurriculars, sleep, nutrition, technology, family relationships, friendships, responsibilities, privileges, and even behavioral consequences." --Amy Saltzman, MD, author of A Still Quiet Place for Teens: A Mindfulness Workbook to Ease Stress and Difficult Emotions
"Dr. Bertin elevates the focus on executive function in childhood/adolescent development to new heights. His clear, scientific, and practical approach will change my practice and, I hope, the practice of many of my colleagues. In a world of executive dysfunction, Dr. Bertin's approach should be included in the basics of child development, pediatric temperament, and constructive family dynamics." --Elio Gizzi, MD, chief of General Pediatrics, East Bay, The Permanente Medical Group
"The real title should be How Children (and Their Parents) Thrive! Dr. Bertin's nonjudgmental and reassuring tone is the perfect antidote for the parenting book that makes us feel like we're doing everything wrong. Understanding a child's developmental capabilities at different ages and working to their strengths is worth the price of admission. And that's only Chapter 1! I can't do my twins' first ten years over again, but now I'll go into their second decade MUCH more confident that I have the tools to handle what's ahead." --Wendy Mass, New York Times bestselling author of A Mango-Shaped Space
"How Children Thrive is a breath of fresh air. Mark Bertin cuts through all the overwhelming theories on how to optimally raise children and presents an elegant, effective, yet simple approach that can help your child develop into the best version of themselves (while maintaining your sanity!). If you've ever felt overwhelmed as a parent, this book is a must-read!" --Elisha Goldstein, PhD, founder of A Course in Mindful Living
"How Children Thriveis a book I highly recommend not only for parents but also for professionals who work with children and their families.Mark Bertin has done a masterful job of explaining the key role of executive function (EF) in a child's development and has offered very specific, practical suggestions for nurturing EF, self-discipline, and resilience in children. As Mark shares his insights about parenting, I was especially impressed with his ability to do so in an empathic manner. His warmth and humor as well as appreciation for the challenges parents face were evident throughout the book--making it easier for parents to understand, accept, and apply the information he conveys. This book is a wonderful resource for parents in developing self-compassion and resilience in their own lives so that they are better equipped to develop these same qualities in the lives of their children." --Dr. Robert Brooks, coauthor of Raising a Self-Disciplined Child and The Power of Resilience
"In How Children Thrive, Mark Bertin offers a clear, accessible overview of child development. He makes the important point that a parent's state of mind powerfully affects the development of the child and presents a wealth of mindfulness-based practices to help both parents and kids." --Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Love
"Mark Bertin has provided a smart, readable, and immensely valuable guide to the development of resilience and executive skills. It's exactly the type of book I was looking for when my children were growing up." --Susan Kaiser Greenland, author of The Mindful Child and Mindful Games