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Getting it Right This Time : How to Create a Loving and Lasting Marriage - Barry W. McCarthy

Getting it Right This Time

How to Create a Loving and Lasting Marriage

By: Barry W. McCarthy, Emily J. McCarthy

Paperback | 8 November 2005 | Edition Number 1

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According to a recent issue of the National Vital Statistics Reports (the monthly publication of the National Center for Health Statistics), there were approximately 2.25 million licensed marriages in the year 2002. During the same period, 1.14 million partnerships were dissolved through a divorce. Another on-line source, DivorceMag.com offers the discouraging tidbit that the likelihood of all new marriages made in the United States in 1997 to end in divorce is 43%. These figures are indicative of national and world-wide trends that have held fairly constant over the past few years, suggesting that divorce will continue to be a common experience for the foreseeable future. Barry and Emily McCarthy, realists in today's world (despite a 38-year first marriage), present the inevitable sequel to Getting It Right the First Time. In Getting It Right This Time, we pick up when the lessons offered in the first book didn't quite hit home, and the romance, myth, and wonder of passionate sexdidn't develop into a solid foundation for marriage. What went wrong, what can we learn from the mistakes of a first marriage, and how can we move on to start over? In the authors' own words, "there are two crucial learnings from a divorce. The first is to identify vulnerabilities and traps, so they do not control your life and the potential of a subsequent marriage. The second is the commitment to create a second marriage and family which is satisfying and stable." Getting It Right This Time contains information, guidelines, case studies, and exercises, useable individually or as a couple. Chapters are self-contained, stand-alone units focused on topics such as: Intimacy and sexuality Step-parenting Dealing with the ex-spouse Marrying after 50 Financial issues Having a child in a second marriage. Sticking with the writing style and format that has worked in their previous two Routledge books, the authors have againcombined empirical research and experience in practice and therapy with insight and sensitivity to present a unique approach at forming a second marriage. The text has two central focuses: first, divorce is not a failing, but rather a courageous act that can improve your life, and second, that re-marriage is an important choice, and one that should be carefully considered - but one that can lead to a successful, rewarding, and loving second chance. * Authoritative * Contains questionnaires and self-help activities * Author known to booksellers, and available for publicity * The McCarthys earlier book, Rekindling Desire, has sold over 18,000 copies since its publication in 2003 and Getting It Right the First Time, has sold over 4,000 copies since its publication in 2004.
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"This is the best book to help people accept the reality of divorce and commit to a successful, satisfying re-marriage. Barry and Emily McCarthy's book is exceptional as an insightful, honest, humane, realistic, and wise guide for successful re-marriage." - Michael E. Metz, Ph.D., Psychologist, Marital & Sex Therapist, author of Coping with Premature Ejaculation and The Styles of Conflict Inventory

"This practical, proactive, and wonderfully accessible book gives you just what you need; it busts destructive myths, provides clear examples about what is normal and what to expect along the way, and lays out easy-to-follow guidelines, exercises, and solutions. You'll become your own expert and create success for your stepfamily." - Diane Sollee, MSW, Founder and Director, SmartMarriages

"There is a big need for a book that helps couples succeed in their second marriage, and the McCarthys have pulled it off with compassion, wisdom, and hope. No one needs to repeat past mistakes, and this book shows how to have a marriage better than you ever imagined it could be." - William J. Doherty, Ph.D., Professor of Family Social Science, University of Minnesota and author of Take Back Your Marriage

"Getting It Right This Time' offer a realistic but encouraging view of second marriages, pointing out the perks as well as the pitfalls." - Star Tribune, Saturday Metro Edition

"Getting It Right This Time provides anecdotes and exercises designed to help avoid past traps and make healthy, realistic choices for the future." - Newsday, Nassau and City Edition

"Getting It Right This Time is a straightforward, clearly written, practical book for the general reader who has been divorced. It can also be a helpful book for those who are contemplating divorce, because the authors' discussion of past problems serves to put issues into perspetive in a way that may be helpful before one leaves one's first marriage. This is a basic "nuts and bolts" guidebook that would be a useful resource for couple therapists to recommend for those who want to read a self-help that has specific advice and guidelines." - Mary Ann Norfleet, PsycCRITIQUES, Contemporary Psychology: APA Review of Books, May 24, 2006 Vol. 51 (21), Article 3

"Getting It Right This Time: How to Create A Loving and Lasting Marriage tells how to identify common vulnerabilities and traps so they don't affect a new relationship. From understanding how to commit to a second family to blending insights gained from research studies, Getting It Right This Time blends scholarship with practical application." - James A. Cox, Editor in Chief and Diane C. Donovan, Editor, The Official Newsletter of The Midwest Book Review, Page 1, Column2, Volume 5, Number 5, May 2006, ISSN 0896-6521

"Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple." - Jonathan Kroll, Editor, ADOLESCENCE


"This is the best book to help people accept the reality of divorce and commit to a successful, satisfying re-marriage. Barry and Emily McCarthy's book is exceptional as an insightful, honest, humane, realistic, and wise guide for successful re-marriage." - Michael E. Metz, Psychologist, Marital & Sex Therapist, author of Coping with Premature Ejaculation and The Styles of Conflict Inventory

"This practical, proactive, and wonderfully accessible book gives you just what you need; it busts destructive myths, provides clear examples about what is normal and what to expect along the way, and lays out easy-to-follow guidelines, exercises, and solutions. You'll become your own expert and create success for your stepfamily." - Diane Sollee, MSW, Founder and Director, SmartMarriages

"Getting It Right This Time is a straightforward, clearly written, practical book for the general reader who has been divorced. It can also be a helpful book for those who are contemplating divorce, because the authors' discussion of past problems serves to put issues into perspetive in a way that may be helpful before one leaves one's first marriage. This is a basic "nuts and bolts" guidebook that would be a useful resource for couple therapists to recommend for those who want to read a self-help that has specific advice and guidelines." - Mary Ann Norfleet, PsycCRITIQUES, Contemporary Psychology: APA Review of Books, May 24, 2006 Vol. 51 (21), Article 3

"Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple." - Jonathan Kroll, Editor, ADOLESCENCE

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