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Boys Will Be Boys : Power, patriarchy and the toxic bonds of mateship - Clementine Ford

Boys Will Be Boys

Power, patriarchy and the toxic bonds of mateship

Paperback Published: 26th September 2018
ISBN: 9781760632335
Number Of Pages: 384

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The incendiary new book about toxic masculinity and misogyny from Clementine Ford, author of the best-selling feminist manifesto, Fight Like A Girl.

'Everyone's afraid that their daughters might be hurt. No one seems to be scared that their sons might be the ones to do it ... This book ... is the culmination of many years of writing about power, abuse, privilege, male entitlement and rape culture. After all that, here's what I've learned: we should be f*cking terrified.' Clementine Ford, from the introduction

Fearless feminist heroine Clementine Ford is a beacon of hope and inspiration to hundreds of thousands of Australian women and girls. Her incendiary first book, Fight Like A Girl, is taking the world by storm, galvanising women to demand and fight for real equality and not merely the illusion of it.

Now Boys Will Be Boys examines what needs to change for that equality to become a reality. It answers the question most asked of Clementine: 'How do I raise my son to respect women and give them equal space in the world? How do I make sure he's a supporter and not a perpetrator?'

All boys start out innocent and tender, but by the time they are adolescents many of them will subscribe to a view of masculinity that is openly contemptuous of women and girls. Our world conditions boys into entitlement, privilege and power at the expense not just of girls' humanity but also of their own.

Ford demolishes the age-old assumption that superiority and aggression are natural realms for boys, and demonstrates how toxic masculinity creates a disturbingly limited and potentially dangerous idea of what it is to be a man. Crucially, Boys Will Be Boys reveals how the patriarchy we live in is as harmful to boys and men as it is to women and girls, and asks what we have to do to reverse that damage. The world needs to change and this book shows the way.

About the Author

Clementine Ford is a freelance writer, broadcaster and public speaker based in Melbourne. She is the bestselling author of the feminist manifesto Fight Like A Girl.

Meh - it makes a valid point, but not clearly or well

2

There's nothing wrong with Ford's premise - that there are issues with the ways in which masculinity is embodied by some men in society, so far as it goes I'm on her side politically. But she just isn't a great writer. There are so many better feminist writers I wonder why she bothered. She oversimplifies, she rants angrily, she makes personal attacks, she is an ideologue uninterested in evidence. And none of that would bother me if she were a good writer. But she isn't. Andrew Dworkin is hard core and more interesting, Greer is as much of a polemicist and attention seeker but writers beautifully, Gay is a strong and interesting and a much better writer. If you want feminist theory there are more informed works, if you want a polemic there are stronger works, ... Ford is a product of social media and that's how she writes. It reads as though it were extracted from Facebook posts and Twitter tweets. It's just not very good.

Melbourne

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A ball tearer

5

I loved this book. It was engaging and familiar. I felt myself waiting with baited breath for Clementine Fords commentary on men in sport. While familiar in theme, it belted with its relentless reminder that I have so often accepted unacceptable behaviour. At the same time it comforted me to know that many other women have also not been strong enough to say 'no thanks - you have no character or genuine worthiness'. Thank you x

Canberra

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Don't understand the hateful reviews

5

I can't understand how someone can read a book about how toxic masculinity harms men and women, how it contributes to men shutting down all feelings besides rage and contributes to the fact that 1-2 women are killed by her current or former partner in Australia every single week, and think it's not normal and in fact EXPECTED for her to sound angry or "shouty". Once again, nothing Clementine has carefully written or researched matters because people reading this dont like a woman to "shout at them". You literally bought her book to read her views, and then when they didn't pander to your egos well enough you dismiss and publicly put her down. The issues in this book are real, scary, and backed up at every stage with studies and data (maybe some of you tuned out and ignored these). I'm a woman in her mid twenties who has been catcalled, pursued relentlessly by men in cars at the age of 8, and otherwise hypersexualised my whole life. Not until I found feminism have I been free to be myself, be happy and have a voice. Thank you Clementine, I know you know how to ignore the haters.

Melbourne

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For a certain audience

3

I'm not sure how to review this book. My son in his 30s read it and was impressed by it, it sparked a lot of conversation between us and I agreed to read it then. I got to about chapter 3 or 4 and couldn't take any more! I felt as if it was written in capital letters ..very 'shouty' And I was tired of being shouted at. It did not seem to relate to me and my generation (I'm 70). Maybe it should have but it didn't; I kept wanting to protest and see some balance from another point of view. That is NOT what this book is about. Read it and start discussions with your children but it's not a fun ride!

Perth

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Arrogance and Affectation

1

Clementine's work highlights important issues that do need to be discussed to further the way humans socialise and how cultures progress. Its overt aggressiveness and pretentiousness however fundamentally contradicts that in which her feminist narrative assumes moral superiority over. She is an ideologue in her work *just* as much any devout Christian, alt right-winger or 'sjw' (comparison of her tribalism not between belief-systems) and it's the same traits that make the aforementioned unbearable that do her. Sure! there is fair critique in the book but as per any ideologue with tunnel vision, she misses basic understandings of moral psychology and biology. She makes big, absolute statements about people, generalises and makes logical jumps and remarks to suit her agenda. No one is arguing that human behaviour, especially mens can't be ridiculous, repugnant and frankly vile!! But the book serves no antidote and arouses a feeling of 'I just wasted my time listening to an angry bigot' . Further, and more importantly, its frankly nothing new and really just not a great read.

Melbourne

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Very full on but asks many valid questions

4

You may not agree with all the views of this writer and you may feel offended by some of her content and language. Regardless of her sometimes vitriol tone and foul language, which is just anger, pure anger at millenias of inequality, she puts forward a lot of worthwhile, interesting content. I'm a woman and I identify with some of the experiences put forward in this book and yet, I am a lucky first world woman who has not known assault. Her book still speaks to me. Directly. You ONLY need to read the chapter on women in film to recognise she has raised questions that need to be discussed. I bought this book because I have a son and I hope that one day my son will make better choices than many many men make today. If anything, read this book and have a conversation. she is trying to get readers to react and think. So think!

Melbourne

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Disappointing

2

I originally bought this book in an attempt to gain another perspective, given the current #metoo social climate. Unfortunately I feel that this book has fallen short of giving any insight into the real issues we face collectively in society today. Though many opinions are given by the author, there are very few instances where claims are made and backed up with data and statistics from reputable sources. There are a few moments where the author grabs your attention and makes you think about issues that need to be discussed, however these moments that make you think are often disrupted by rants against people that the author clearly does not like. Which more often than not, ends with infantile name calling. By all means I'm all for debating a persons ideology or actions, but name calling is just a lazy way of attacking someone. (Which unfortunately the author does all too often) Overall I would not recommend this book if you are looking to broaden your perspectives on the topics discussed in this book. I am sure there are far better books out there in the same category as this one that would be more worthy of your money.

Sunshine Coast

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Useful & exhaustive analysis

4

This book can feel ranty at times. Step back, and consider why. So many examples of people behaving badly have come to light due to the pressure applied to demand good behaviour. Still, so many behave badly & go unpunished simply because society too often gives white men a pass when they grope, are unfaithful, murder their families, become mass shooters ... It's not just white men, but mostly white men. Look at all these unpunished crime can get dispiriting. Clementine calls out these examples. Together we must raise our voices to demand decency from *everyone*. We especially demand good behaviour of white men because white men lead the patriarchal society we're in -- for now. Hopefully her next book will illustrate ways to build on #metoo, #enoughisenough, #timesup to sustain the changes we are beginning to see now. And remember, complacency kills comprehensively.

Melbourne Australia

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Not insightful

1

Do not waste your money

Melbourne

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Great book if your a feminist!

1

Most heap of rot I've ever read. Don't know how this book was ever published as it is just hate-filled garbage. Please never write another book in my lifetime Clementine Ford.

Melbourne

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ISBN: 9781760632335
ISBN-10: 1760632333
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 384
Published: 26th September 2018
Publisher: Allen & Unwin
Country of Publication: AU
Dimensions (cm): 23.4 x 15.3