
Blessed Relief
What Christians Can Learn from Buddhists about Suffering
By: Gordon Peerman
eBook | 23 April 2012 | Edition Number 1
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A thoughtful, down-to-earth look at helpful ways to lessen human suffering.
This book takes you on a lively, sometimes light-hearted, journey through nine Buddhist practices that can bring "blessed relief" to a wide range of human suffering-and teaches you skills to reduce suffering in the long term for yourself and others.
- The practices help you: Loosen the grip of suffering
- Engage and question limiting views, thoughts and opinions
- Deconstruct ten common assumptions
- Be present in each moment
- Survive emotional storms
- Develop peaceful communication skills
- Deepen communication with your partner
- Appreciate mortality and the preciousness of life
- Cultivate compassion
As you read the chapters and engage in each practice, you will work with your own stories of suffering-stories in which you have felt abandoned, deprived, subjugated, defective, excluded or vulnerable-and you will learn how to release yourself from suffering by investigating it with curiosity and kindness.
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Gordon Peerman is an Episcopal priest and psychotherapist in private practice and an adjunct faculty member at Vanderbilt Divinity School, where he teaches seminars in Buddhist-Christian dialogue. He also teaches Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction at the Vanderbilt Center for Integrative Health.
For over 2,000 years, Buddhists have studied and dealt with the challenges and benefits of human suffering. In the process, they have also explored happiness, generosity, kindness, equanimity, and compassion. Peerman has spent 25 years in what he calls a "dual citizenship" in Christianity and Buddhism. In this enlightening book, he opens the door of freedom for us so we can leave fear and all its companion stories behind. Peerman shares many of his retreat experiences and presents nine practices that address the problem of human suffering:
? The Three-Minute Breathing Space
? The Work
? The Practice of Inquiry
? The Sacred Breath
? Working with RAIN
? Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
? The Practice of Beginning Anew
? The Five Remembrances
? Compassion Practice
On a contemplative kayaking retreat in the wilderness of southern Alaska, Peerman confronts the grasping of his small mind, organized around "me and mine," and revels in the openness of the big mind which knows the truth of impermanence. In his probes on suffering, he comes to see that it is a waste of time to try to find out the cause of suffering - better to focus on a way to follow when suffering comes.
The Buddhist wisdom teachers proclaim that it is our resistance to what is that is the source of all our problems. Peerman does a fine job of explaining how the Work of Byron Katie is helpful in questioning our thoughts and stories about reality. Further explication comes with his comments on the ten believed thoughts that lead to suffering identified by Tara Bennett-Goleman. In an interesting chapter on "Quiet Ambition," the author examines his external need to be seen and recognized as special, one who is immensely accomplished, along with his internal fears of not being good enough. Peerman holds this tension in his awareness and comes to a deeper realization of his reactivity. He brings the same mindfulness to anger and the option of transforming it into compassion and peace.
On another retreat, Peerman deals with his own spiritual edge through the process of Nonviolent Communication espoused by Marshall Rosenberg. He uses the Beginning Anew ceremony developed by Thich Nhat Hanh with his wife and deals with his grief over the death of his father by bowing to the moment. Peerman closes with his involvement in a Mobile Loaves and Fishes project which enables him to practice compassion. He calls it a softening of the heart: "Our work, our inner work, is to transform anger into justice, hurt into compassion, suffering into wisdom."
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Introduction ix
The Buddha Way and the Christian Way ix
What Helps and What Doesn't xi
Dropping Your Story Line xii
Finding Freedom xiii
1. Big Mind, Big Medicine 1
Everything Changes 1
The Heart of Mindfulness 5
The Weakest Link 7
Small Mind, Big Mind 10
Renunciation Practice 13
A Refuge from Words 16
Dropping into Freedom 19
Blessed Relief: The Three-Minute Breathing Space 24
2. The Cry for Help 27
The Why and the What of Suffering 27
An Exit from Hell 29
Bearing Suffering 32
The Work 36
Clearing the Lens 38
The Judging Mind Goes on Retreat 41
Blessed Relief: The Work 45
3. Beyond Belief 49
A Happy Accident 49
Spacious Awareness 52
Incline Your Mind 55
Who's Talking? 57
The Cloud of Unknowing 60
Blessed Relief: The Practice of Inquiry 63
4. Quiet Ambition 65
Not Enough 65
Kind Attention 69
Spontaneous Joy 72
The Hungry Ghost 74
Blessed Relief: The Sacred Breath 77
5. An Instrument of Peace 79
Angr-r-r-y 79
Self-Soothing: Bringing Attentiveness to Anger 81
Self-Defining: Being Willing to Speak Your Truth 85
Self-Transcending: Bringing RAIN to Blame 91
Blessed Relief: Working with RAIN 98
6. Meeting Our Edges 101
"You All Belong" 101
The Failed Buddhist Bypass 104
Nonviolent Communication 110
May the Circle Be Unbroken 114
Blessed Relief: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 117
7. Beginning Anew 121
Unwrapping the Experience 121
A Place to Begin 123
True Intimacy 125
Zazen in the Devil's Cauldron 129
Blessed Relief: The Practice of Beginning Anew 134
8. The Dharma of Dying 137
Remembrances 137
The Great Way 140
Bowing to the Moment 143
Old Wounds 147
Blessed Relief: The Five Remembrances 150
9. Mobile Loaves and Fishes 153
Compassion Rising 153
Beyond Us and Them 157
A Retreat on the Streets 159
Softening the Heart 161
Blessed Relief: Compassion Practice 166
Afterword 168
Glossary 173
Suggested Resources 175
Acknowledgments 179
Credits 182
ISBN: 9781594734199
ISBN-10: 1594734194
Published: 23rd April 2012
Format: ePUB
Language: English
Number of Pages: 208
Audience: General Adult
Publisher: SkyLight Paths Publishing
Edition Number: 1

























