
We Should Get Together
The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
By: Kat Vellos
eBook | 4 January 2020 | Edition Number 1
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We Should Get Together is the handbook for anyone who’s ready for better friendships, now.
- Have you recently moved to a new city and are struggling to make friends?
- Do you find yourself constantly making plans with friends that fall through?
- Are you more likely to see your friends’ social media posts than their faces?
You aren’t alone. Millions of adults struggle with an uncomfortable and persistent ache: platonic longing, which is the unfulfilled wish for authentic, resilient, close friendships. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Making and maintaining friendships during adulthood can be hard—or, with a bit of intention and creativity, joyful.
Author Kat Vellos, experience designer and founder of Better Than Small Talk, tackles the four most common challenges of adult friendship: constant relocation, full schedules, the demands of partnership and family, and our culture’s declining capacity for compassion and intimacy in the age of social media. Combining expert research and personal stories pulled from conversations with hundreds of adults, We Should Get Together is the modern handbook for making and maintaining stronger friendships.
With this book you will learn to:
- Make and maintain friendships when you (or your friends) keep moving
- Have deeper and more meaningful conversations
- Triumph over awkwardness in social situations
- Become less dependent on your phone
- Identify and prioritize quality connections
- Find time for friendship despite your busy calendar
- Create closer, more durable friendships
Full of relatable stories, practical tips, 60 charming illustrations, 55 suggested activities, a book club discussion guide, and 300+ conversation starters, We Should Get Together is the perfect book for anyone who wants to have dedicated, life-enriching friends, and who wants to be that kind of friend, too.
Industry Reviews
“Deep and thorough in its exploration of all the facets of friendship. This book is truly a gift. Full of empathy, wisdom, encouragement and practical suggestions, Kat conveys her deep and encompassing understanding — through her own experience and research — of the many factors that make adult friendship so challenging! With humor and charm she lets the reader know that she understands first hand how frustrating it can be to try to build adult friendships. She offers tons of practical suggestions for small, step-by-step actions you can take to try to shift things. She also offers encouragement and ways to work with the inevitable pitfalls all of us will encounter. I recommend this book highly! ” — Laura Parker, MFT, founder of Transforming Loneliness
"I devoured this book and will return to it again and again. Kat is both generous and thoughtful. She has created a variety of actionable tools and processes for understanding our individual friendship needs, setting friendship goals, and achieving those goals. I appreciated the applicability of the practices, her delightful voice, and the ease with which I felt myself taking a good look at the friendships in my life and how I behave in or toward them. Launch 2020 off right - with this book in hand as you work your way toward a goal of greater connection. P.S. Her sketches are :fire:. — Shannon Weber, MSW, author of Show Up Hard: A Road Map for Helpers in Crisis
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Part 1: Why friendship matters and the elements of good ones
Introduction
How Friendship Got So Complicated
Hydroponic Friendship
The Seeds of Connection
Part 2: The four main friendship challenges and how to overcome them
Finding Belonging in a Hypermobile World:
Be Here Now
Make It Work
#MoNewFriends
Get Comfortable
Settle In
Fitting Friendship Into Your Busy Life:
Get (Un)Busy
Take Control of Your Time
Make Room for Spaciousness
Recontextualize Busy
Double Down on Showing Up
Blending Friendship with Partnership and Family:
Dude, Where’s My Friends?
The Lonely Parent
Parent Town
Keeping Everyone Happy
Outside Looking In
Remember to Breathe
Getting Better at Getting Closer:
Antisocial Media
Imaginary Friends
Ask Better Questions
So Awkward
Face the Music
Ask for Help
From Friendship to Community
Part 3: Bold new approaches for cultivating friendship, and next steps
Next Level: How to Accelerate Any Friendship:
Zero to Sixty in Two Weeks
The Friendship Incubator
Conclusion
Making It Real
Appendix
Book Club and Discussion Guide
Acknowledgments
Find Your Feelings
Better than Small Talk: Conversation Starters
Notes
ISBN: 9781734379730
ISBN-10: 1734379731
Published: 4th January 2020
Format: ePUB
Language: English
Number of Pages: 310
Audience: General Adult
Publisher: Katherine Vellos
Edition Number: 1
























