CONTENTS
Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .ix
Safety . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xiii
Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xv
Choosing a New Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xix
Part I. Step 1—Awareness
Chapter 1: Identifying the Pain of Our Past and Present . . . . . . . . . .1
Chapter 2: A Return to the Garden of Eden . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
Chapter 3: Picking Your Battles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19
Chapter 4: A Man After God’s Own Heart . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
Part II. Step 2—Acceptance
Chapter 5: The “Weak” and the “Strong” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
Chapter 6: Hidden Struggles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41
Chapter 7: Sitting With Our Junk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .53
Chapter 8: Pain Management . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59
Chapter 9: “White-Knuckling,” Distractions and Your Spiritual Anchor . 67
Part III. Step 3—Surrender
Chapter 10: “I Give Up!” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71
Chapter 11: God Doesn’t Love the Way We Love . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
Chapter 12: Getting Real With God . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87
Chapter 13: How It Works . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Chapter 14: Pulling God Into the Struggle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .103
Chapter 15: Waiting on God . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .109
Chapter 16: Jesus in the Garden . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .117
Chapter 17: Blessings in the Struggle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .129
Chapter 18: The Power of Choice, Temptation, and God’s Grace . . . . .137
Chapter 19: Why Am I Still Struggling With This? . . . . . . . . . . .145
Chapter 20: Welcoming and Embracing the Struggle . . . . . . . . . 155
Part IV. Next Steps
Chapter 21: An Unofficial Step Four: The Surrender Prayer Group . . . .163
Conclusion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .185
Appendices . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .191
The Surrender Prayer Summary Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .191
The Surrender Prayer Full Instructions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .193
Surrender Prayer Group . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .201
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .207
About the Author . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .213
