Your teenager just told you to retake your driving test. Not about your actual driving—about how you navigate your relationship with them. They can now choose not to engage, not to share what's happening in their life, to simply withdraw. This is the ultimate test of parenting. We're in crisis. Teenage mental health is at epidemic levels. Technology hasn't created this crisis— it's exposed what was already broken. After 25 years living in families' homes, Jenny Roberts reveals the truth: nothing is wrong with teenagers. Everything is wrong with the environment we're creating. That environment? It's us. You are not just influencing your teenager's environment—you are the environment they develop in. Through the driving metaphor you already know, discover: • Which "seat" you're in (calm driver's seat or overwhelmed boot) • What "fuel" you're running on (support or pressure) • How your feelings show you which environment you're generating The skills you need are already within you. The principles work like gravity—always there. Stop searching for systems to fix your teenager. Start recognising which environment you're generating. Your feelings show you where you are. Notice the feeling. Trust what you already know. One parent. One home. One teenager at a time.
