Controlling People

How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

By: Patricia Evans

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Paperback | 1 February 2003 | Edition Number 3

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Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation.

Does this sound like someone you know?

*Always needs to be right
*Tells you who you are and what you think
*Implies that you’re wrong or inadequate when you don’t agree
*Is threatened by people who are “different”
*Feels attacked when questioned
*Doesn’t seem to really hear or see you

If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people’s lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.

Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author.

By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.

Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

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"...the most important thing is to realize that you don't deserve to be treated that way."-Oprah Winfrey (advance praise for Controlling People); "A groundbreaking new book."-Newsweek

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Non-Fiction Psychology The Self, Ego, Identity, Personality Social Psychology Self-Help, Personal Development & Practical Advice Popular Psychology Mind, Body, Spirit Family & Health Relationships & Families: Advice & Issues Dating, Relationships, Living Together & Marriage

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. xiii

Sense and Nonsense	p. 3
The Problem	p. 9
Intentions	p. 21
Beside Yourself	p. 27
The "Self" We Are Sometimes "Beside"	p. 31
Disconnection: Training, Trying, and Trauma	p. 37
Built Backwards	p. 53
Pretending and Its Impact	p. 57
Pervasive Disconnection	p. 63
Backwards Approaches	p. 69
Backwards Connections	p. 79
The Teddy Illusion	p. 89
The Spell	p. 101
The Control Connection	p. 111
The Controller and the Witness	p. 117

Plugged In and Powerless	p. 127
Signs of Separateness	p. 137
The Controller's Identity Dilemma	p. 149
Fear	p. 161
Control Tactics	p. 171
Confabulation	p. 179

Other "Close" Connections	p. 189
One Mind and the Conformity Connection	p. 203
Control: Perpetuated and Institutionalized	p. 215

The Compelling Force	p. 229
True Connection	p. 237
The Strangest Paradox	p. 243
Breaking the Spell	p. 249
Clarity	p. 265
Aligned with the Compelling Force	p. 277
Afterword	p. 283
Bibliography	p. 285
Survey	p. 287
Endnotes	p. 291
Index	p. 293
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