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Volume 4: In the Family
You did not just grow up with a difficult parent. You grew up learning that love must be earned. That your emotions were inconvenient. That your needs came second—always.
The narcissistic abuser does not only operate in romantic relationships. They also raise children. And when coercive control begins in childhood, it shapes everything: how you see yourself, how you relate to others, how you define love itself.
This fourth volume explores the most painful territory of narcissistic abuse—the family. Where manipulation is disguised as parenting. Where control masquerades as care. Where the child learns to abandon themselves long before they have the words to understand why.
Drawing on 35 years of clinical experience, psychoanalyst Pascal Couderc examines how toxic family dynamics imprint themselves on the psyche—and how those patterns continue into adulthood.
In this volume, you will discover:
- What truly defines a toxic parent—and why it's so hard to recognize
- How coercive control operates through guilt, silence, and emotional instability
- The specific patterns of the narcissistic mother and narcissistic father
- What happens when a narcissistic abuser becomes a stepparent
- How children are assigned roles: the showcase, the scapegoat, the confidant
- The lasting psychological imprint: low self-esteem, hypervigilance, and relational patterns
- How survivors unknowingly replay the wound in adult relationships
This is not about blame. It is about finally seeing the invisible architecture of a childhood that asked too much and gave too little.
Volume 4 of the 8-volume series The Narcissistic Abuser: What Every Survivor Needs to Know.
