How We Grieve

ContentsIntroduction to the Second EditionChapter 1 - Stories of Grieving: Listening and RespondingDTMartin and LouiseDTJenniferBill, Diane and MargaretEd, Elise, and DavidKathrynColleenStories Are the Heart of the Matter: The Point of Thinking about GrievingWhy Do Persons Look to Books on Grieving?They Seek General UnderstandingThey Seek Respect for IndividualityThey Seek Ways to Deal with Helplessness in GrievingThey Seek Guidance for CaregiversChapter 2 - Grieving Is Active: We Need Not Be HelplessDTThe Story of Martin and LouiseDTJennifer's StoryBereavement Is Choiceless, but Grieving Is NotGrief Is an Emotion, Grieving a Coping ProcessSome Say We Grieve in Stages or PhasesSome Describe Our Grieving in Medical TermsIs It Helpful to Talk of Stages, Phases and Medical Analogies?Some Say that as We Grieve We Address TasksA Task-Based, Active ViewSome Choices We All Have as We GrieveGrieving Is Active: A SummaryChapter 3 - Respecting Individuals When They GrieveDTThe Story of Bill and DianeDTRespecting Individual FlourishingRespecting Individual VulnerabilitiesActing Respectfully Once We Understand IndividualFlourishing and VulnerabilityWhat Our Self-Respect RequiresChapter 4 - Relearning the World: How We GrieveDTThe Story of Ed and EliseDTHow We Relearn Our WorldsThe Worlds We RelearnWe Relearn Our Physical SurroundingsWe Relearn Our Relationships with Fellow SurvivorsWe Relearn Our SelvesWe Relearn Our Places in Space and TimeThe Power of the Relearning IdeaChapter 5 - Relearning Our Selves: Grief and Personal IntegrityDTDavid's StoryDTMargaret's StoryHow Are We to Understand Ourselves in Loss and Grief?An Image of How We Become the Selves We AreOur Selves in Loss and Grief: Elaborating the ImageAs We Cope, We Engage with and Move beyond SufferingWe Struggle to Put Our Shattered Lives Back TogetherWe Seek New Ways to Complete Our Life StoriesWe Become Whole Again as Parts of Larger WholesTogether We Reshape Our Families and CommunitiesAdvantages of This Idea of Relearning Our SelvesChapter 6 - Relearning Our Relationships with the Deceased: Grief, Love and SeparationDTKathryn's StoryDTColleen's StoryWhat We Lose, and What We Do Not Lose, When Someone DiesLet Go We Must, but Not EntirelyWe Continue to Love and Cherish the Stories of Lives Now EndedWe Still Care About What Those Who Died Cared About.Advantages of This Idea of Relearning Our Relationships with the DeceasedIndex