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Introduction: The Problem With 'Success' We tend to define ourselves by various metrics that determine success. But what if we aren't called to be great at all? The leader's first job is to become a good and virtuous human being and a good and virtuous leader, and to leave questions of growth and perceived success in the hands of God. Sometimes all God requires of leaders is to do a small thing faithfully for the rest of our lives. 01. Why Great is the Enemy of Good This chapter opens with a narrative about the 2008 financial collapse. An entertaining chapter, filled with stories of those who pursue ascent while sacrificing virtue in the process (Nixon, Michael Vick, Jerry Johnston, Sosa and McGuire and others), contrasted with stories of those who choose the path of descent, and end up leaving a legacy of virtue (Bonhoeffer, Dirk Willems, Jean Vanier, Richard Stearns, and some unknowns like Thomas F. Freeman, Ed Stith, Rich Mullins). 02. The Failure of the Megachurch The megachurch has been an amazing laboratory in which we have tested the limits of size on the body of Christ. The megachurch has yet another important lesson for us: there is such a thing as too big. Much of the drive to become bigger has been rooted in the desire to flee vulnerability. I talk about how the megachurch is like an athlete on steroids - any church body that succeeds in growing that large must result to artificial means which look good in the short term but lead to lasting harm. Church members never experience the natural ecology of relationships that exists in a smaller church body. 03. The Body, Not a Business Body is a better metaphor for the church than business. The CEO model of leadership must give way to a more rabbinic model: tending the sacred words and building a sustainable community. The church has been trying to function like a business for so long that we've forgotten our first task is to simply be the body of Christ. 04. The Mythic Failure of Competition Our cultural fixation on success is fed by our insatiable appetite for competition. Competition serves as the basis for much of Western Society: economics, politics, education, and even entertainment (see Grammy Awards, Academy Awards, Tony Awards, the Pulitzer Prize, and reality TV). In his classic book No Contest: The Case Against Competition, Alfie Kohn presents study after study to disprove the myth that competition produces the best results. Henri Nouwen argues that competition teaches us to shun virtues like compassion in order to win. The kingdom of God comes through collaboration, not competition. Collaboration actually forms people in the kind of virtues which draw their life from the kingdom of God. 05. The Broken Leader Most of church leadership today is an attempt to teach churches how to be invulnerable. The thought which lies behind the drive to success is often, "If I'm successful, I won't have to worry about making payroll, getting fired, people leaving, etc." The story of God teaches us that vulnerability is necessary component of our discipleship; an essential leadership virtue which must be cultivated. A church is made beautiful not through triumphalist growth strategies, but in discovering the radical transformative impact of vulnerability (see Philippians 2 and Colossians 1). 06. Learning to Wait For the children of Israel, the 40 years in the desert had to seem unbearable. But God had decided that everyone whose imagination had been formed by slavery would have to pass on before they could move forward as a people. When they did move forward, it would be with a new generation whose imaginations were shaped by a reliance on God for their daily bread (manna), as well as their direction (the cloud and the pillar of fire). Sometimes following God requires incredible patience. 07. Fidelity and Faithfulness in a Church-Shopping Culture None of what I'm describing works without the assumption of fidelity - people mus