| Acknowledgments | p. xiii |
| Preface | p. xv |
| On Psychological Theories and Their Limitations | p. 1 |
| Theories of Psychotherapy Should Anchor, Not Drown, the Therapist | p. 3 |
| On the Patienthood Role and Its Implications | p. 9 |
| A Patient Is a Sufferer Who Cannot Cope and Who Believes in the Therapist | p. 11 |
| Diagnosis in Psychotherapy Means Understanding Human Conditions That Are Both Unique and Universal | p. 16 |
| Behind the Question, What Do I Want? Is the Larger Question, Who Am I?Or Even, Am I? | p. 20 |
| Patients Come to Treatment in Search of a Substitute Object, If Not a Substitute Self | p. 26 |
| On Therapeutic Settings and Their Mythologies | p. 33 |
| The Therapist Must Establish a Psychologically Safe Environment, Wherein Anything Can Be Said and Any Feeling Experienced | p. 35 |
| The Therapist Establishes the Optimum Therapeutic Environment through a Balance of Neutrality and Empathy | p. 39 |
| The Therapist and the Patient Need to Share a Viewor Mythof Illness and Its Cure | p. 43 |
| A Shared Myth between Therapist and Patient May Be Culturally Inherited, but Their Shared Intention Must Be Mutually Cultivated | p. 48 |
| By Heightening or Lowering Arousal, the Therapist Enters the Patient's World | p. 56 |
| On Clinical Listening and Its Nuances | p. 65 |
| The Therapist's Suspended Attention Is Not Only Objective but Empathic | p. 67 |
| The Therapist Who ""Completely Understands"" the Patient Has Stopped Listening | p. 71 |
| Therapists Tend to Underestimate the Power of Listening and Overestimate the Power of Speaking | p. 81 |
| Do Not Strangle the Patient's Questions by Answering Them | p. 84 |
| The Therapist's Silence Is Intended to Facilitate Treatment; the Patient's Silence Unintentionally Resists It | p. 89 |
| Silence Is Not Always Golden; It Can Be Misused by the Therapist and Misunderstood by the Patient | p. 92 |
| Behind the Patient's Silence Is a Wish to Be Understood without Verbalizing | p. 95 |
| On Therapeutic Relationships and Their Variations | p. 101 |
| The Therapist and Patient Develop a Communicative Intimacy That Does Not Exist in Other Relationships | p. 103 |
| The Patient's Patterns of Relatedness Determine the Moment-To-Moment Course of the Therapeutic Relationship | p. 107 |
| The Patient's Undue Dependency on or Failure to Get Close to the Therapist Represent Two Sides of a Rapprochement Conflict | p. 120 |
| The Therapist's Failure to Facilitate Transference May Reflect Excessive Activity; Failure to Establish an Empathic Bond Reflects Insufficient Feeling for the Patient | p. 124 |
| On Verbal Communication and Its Difficulties | p. 131 |
| Psychotherapy Communication Can Begin Only Where Ordinary Conversation Leaves off | p. 133 |
| Only the Unconscious Can Reach the Unconscious | p. 138 |
| Anything That Can't Be Said Concisely Is Best Not Said at All | p. 150 |
| The Therapist Must Develop a Latency O F Response, Then Work F Urther to Shorten the Time | p. 152 |
| On Treatment Processes and Their Paradoxes | p. 155 |
| The Patient Will Be Both Eager for and Resistant to Change; the Therapist Must Accept the Patient's Whole While Rejecting Dysfunctional Parts | p. 157 |
| The Therapist Never Rests in the Presence of Negative Transference | p. 165 |
| Positive Transference Can Be Perilous and Is the Main Culprit in Benign Premature Termination, Acting Out, and Prolonged Dependency | p. 171 |
| The Therapist May Be Deceived by Positive Transference at Any Stage of the Therapy, When the Therapist's Self-Image Matches the Patient's Transferential Disposition | p. 181 |
| The Therapist's Failure to Distinguish Actual Negative Feelings from Negative Transference Will Enrage the Patient and Bring the Treatment to a Rapid End | p. 183 |
| The Therapist's Failure to Distinguish Actual Positive Feelings from Positive Transference Will Diminish the Patient and Bring the Session to a Slow End | p. 188 |
| The Beginning and Ending of Sessions Tend to Be Untidy and Must Be Tied Together | p. 194 |
| Exit and Entrance Lines Reflect the Transferential Themes of Separation and Intimacy | p. 196 |
| On Technique and Its Boundaries | p. 205 |
| The Therapist Must Not Have a Private Agenda | p. 207 |
| The Therapist's Task Is to Experience the Patient's Dilemma, Not to Solve the Patient's Problems | p. 211 |
| The Careful Interpretation Meets Four Criteria: Optimum Timing, Minimum Dosage, Concrete Detail, and Individual Focus | p. 217 |
| Theory-Driven Interpretations Are Impersonal and Alienating to the Patient | p. 226 |
| Every Interpretation Is Incorrect on Some Level | p. 233 |
| The Therapist's Technique Bends under the Weight of the Patient's Weakness | p. 237 |
| All Interpretations Are Deprivations: Good Ones Bring Disappointment and Bad Ones Cause Disengagement | p. 243 |
| The Interpretation of Symptoms May Dissolve Resistance, but the Interpretation of Character Traits May Generate It | p. 249 |
| Minimum Cues Should Not Be Met with Even Minimum Confrontations | p. 257 |
| On Curative Agents and Their Deceptions | p. 265 |
| Good Moments and Sudden Insights May Deceive the Patient and Derail the Therapist | p. 267 |
| The Success of Psychotherapy Can Be Attributed to the Patient, and Its Failure to the Therapist | p. 272 |
| Only When the Patient Becomes More Vulnerable within Treatment Will He or She Become Less Vulnerable outside Treatment | p. 276 |
| Therapy, like All Relationships, Is Time-Limited | p. 278 |
| Psychotherapy Is like a Slow-Cooking Process That Has No Microwave Substitute | p. 282 |
| Every Therapist Must Be Prepared for the Element of Surprisewhich Can Come Only in the Psychotherapy Experience Itself | p. 285 |
| References | p. 287 |
| Index | p. 295 |
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