Rebellious, entitled, disrespectful, many kids pummel their parents with demands, and boss them around with impunity. Experts might label them "difficult" and advise how to "fix" them. But parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. Fixing the child requires fixing yourself.
In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume leadership roles. With a liberating message and perceptive advice, the book explores: three common bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) used by kids; parenting styles (guilt-prone, anxiety-fueled, fix-everything) that contribute to power imbalances; critical testing periods in a child's development; coping mechanisms that backfire; personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario; and caving in to tantrums and threats breeds more of the same.
It helps you to learn to stop the cycle of abusive behavior and make parenting a pleasure again.
About the Author
Sean Grover has worked in child development and adult psychotherapy for 20 years, and maintains one of the largest private group therapy practices in the U.S. He has been quoted in Newsweek, New York Magazine, NPR, and elsewhere about parent-child relationships.
"Psychotherapist Grover pulls no punches in this parenting manual...[his] empowering, motivating approach is highly compassionate to suffering, burnt-out parents..." --Publishers Weekly
..".fabulous, stupendous, and all around terrific how-to book that helps parents control situations when a child is bullying them." --Grandma Ideas
..".it is nice to have a book like this one to help me learn how to parent better." --Beautiful Mommies
.."this is a book I will be reopening for a long time. The advice is easy and sound!" --Maria's Space
"Grover hit his groove in a savvy compilation of how NOT to let your kids get away with tantrums...MUST HAVE BOOK for parents, teachers, and this blogger!" --The Review Broads
..".offers readable bites of advice, case studies from his 20 years working with families and personal stories of his own trials as the father of two girls." --Associated Press
"It is as if this book was written just for me...I am learning coping mechanisms that I can use to deal with everyday scenarios and situations..." --All Beautiful Mommies
..".lot of good ideas, and common sense approaches to not only getting control of your kids, but most importantly helping you to see what caused the problem..." --Learning Curvy
"The art of parenting will be enhanced with this interesting, insightful, and helpful read." -Bookloons
"It helps that Grover readily admits mistakes he made in his own parenting, which lets us relate to his teachings--and makes him more believable, too." --Psychcentral.com
CONTENTS Acknowledgments Introduction 1 Escape the Suffering Parents Club 2 What Happened to My Sweet, Adorable Child? 3 How We Become Our Kids' Victims-and Strategies to Prevent Parent Burnout 4 Understanding Your Kid's Bullying Behavior Style 5 Your Parenting Style-and How Good Parents Fall into Bad Habits 6 Tools to Give You Both Just the Right Amount of Power 7 How to Assemble Your Anti-Bullying Support Team 8 Navigating the Seven Parenting Crises That Can Trigger Bullying Index About the Author
Series: UK Professional General Reference
For Ages: 18+ years old
Number Of Pages: 224
Published: 1st June 2015
Publisher: HarperCollins Focus
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 23.0 x 13.0
Weight (kg): 0.36