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What Men with Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women, Dating and Relationships - Maxine C. Aston

What Men with Asperger Syndrome Want to Know About Women, Dating and Relationships

By: Maxine C. Aston, Tony Atwood (Foreword by)

Paperback Published: 15th July 2012
ISBN: 9781849052696
Number Of Pages: 208

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Positive, practical and realistic, this book offers a wealth of information on women, dating and relationships for men with Asperger Syndrome (AS).

Many AS men are totally confused and bewildered by women and relationships and find it hard to know what to do, what to say and how to get it right. For these men, understanding the emotional side to relationships and women's needs can be a complete mystery and they often get it disastrously wrong. This practical handbook provides the answers to Asperger men's most frequently asked questions about women, dating and relationships, helping them to understand the way relationships work and increasing their confidence and ability to have successful relationships.

This comprehensive handbook is essential reading for men with Asperger Syndrome (and their partners). It will also be of immeasurable use to counsellors and other professionals working with such individuals.

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This book is a definite must for partners in a Aspergerrelationship and Aspergers, who want to enter into an affair and relationship. -- Nederlandse Vereniging voor Autisme
This is the best book I've come across for explaining what is going on in typical "mixed" relationship, and, although it's aimed at men who have Asperger's, their partners will also be able to gain some insight... she pulls no punches, including one possible solution to relationship difficulties which other books I've read have ignored or not discussed seriously: you could leave... she states plainly when things will be hard, sometimes putting the onus on one partner, sometimes the other, and always justifying why some resolutions can't be shared. I wish more books reached this standard. -- Asperger United
...a wealth of detailed and practical advice, useful to AS males, their partners, and to counsellors who may meet them in their counselling rooms. And an attitude of realistic, but genuine optimism for these relationships. -- Relate Newsletter
This book provides information and wisdom on how someone with Asperger syndrome can achieve, maintain and enjoy a successful long-term relationship. The content resonates with my experience of supporting and guiding so many adults with Asperger syndrome seeking a partner or requesting relationship counselling, from a couple who have only recently fallen in love to those who have been together for decades and become grandparents. If you have Asperger syndrome or are in a relationship with someone who has Asperger syndrome this book will change your life for the better. -- From the Foreword by Professor Tony Attwood, Minds and Hearts Clinic, Brisbane, Australia
Building on her previous work, Maxine gifts the autism community a resource I could have sorely benefitted from when dating and in the early years of marriage. Although I have been with my wife for over two decades, insights within this book contain valuable information that will help my spouse and me form ever closer bonds as we travel the journey of life together. -- Stephen Shore, Ed.D., Assistant Professor of Special Education, Adelphi University, internationally renowned author, consultant, and presenter, and person on the autism spectrum
Maxine Aston has written the book that thousands of people have been waiting for. Whilst it primarily focuses on helping men with Asperger Syndrome (AS) understand the complex thoughts, feelings and behaviours of women, it will also greatly benefit partners, family members and professionals who have tried for years to describe the neurotypical way of thinking. With this book about dating and relationships, Maxine enlightens readers once more with her outstanding knowledge, her incredible insight, her amazing sensibility and her great skill in sensing exactly what people want to know. -- Katrin Bentley, AS couples counsellor and author of Alone Together: Making an Asperger Marriage Work
What a relief men with Asperger syndrome will feel after they've educated themselves about women and all that comes with them with Maxine Aston's spot on wisdom. And my, oh my how much smarter am I now that I've learned the meanings and motives behind neurotypical women's vast array of behaviors. What an interesting and important read this book is! -- Liane Holliday Willey, EdD, author of Safety Skills for Asperger Women and Pretending to be Normal

Forewordp. 11
Acknowledgementsp. 16
Introductionp. 17
Dating and Courtshipp. 21
Where is the best place to meet a prospective partner?p. 23
How do I know if she is attracted to me?p. 35
How do I ask her out?p. 42
Where do I take her on the first date and what can I do to make a good first impression?p. 46
What should I talk about on the first date?p. 49
How do I know when of if to take it further?p. 55
When is it OK to expect sex?p. 58
What if she rejects me? How can I avoid this happening?p. 60
The Relationshipp. 63
Why are women so complicated?p. 70
I feel that whatever I do it will be wrong, especially when she is upset. If I say nothing it is wrong, if I say something that will be wrong too. So is it all my fault?p. 75
I get to a point that I feel I want to run away, as I cannot discuss or argue any more. Why won't she just let me go?p. 77
She asks me what I feel or why I love her and before I can answer she has become reactive/angry/upset/critical. Why?p. 80
She tells me I have a communication problem, yet I have been complimented on my communication at work. Who is right here?p. 84
I feel like she purposely pushes me until I react and then acts the victim and blames me for getting angry. Why does she do this?p. 87
Why is she always criticising me?p. 91
Why does she exaggerate so often?p. 96
If I keep quiet it is wrong and if I speak up it is wrong! Why?p. 100
My only purpose seems to be to work and earn the money. Is this all I am worth? Why doesn't she appreciate all I do for her (and the family)?p. 107
Why does my partner expect me to come in from work and immediately start discussing the day with her?p. 111
My partner keeps nagging me to get rid of some of my possessions. She does not understand how much stress this causes me. What can I do?p. 116
My wife does not seem to know how to load a dishwasher and yet when I rearrange the contents she gets really mad at me. Why won't she just do things the correct way?p. 119
Why does my partner constantly disrupt my plans and routines?p. 124
Why does my partner have to announce everything we do on Facebook? Surely I am entitled to some privacy in my life?p. 130
She constantly accuses me of not listening to her and forgetting what she has told me. Is she making this up to put me down or do I really have memory problems?p. 133
My partner complains that I spend too much time on the internet and not enough time with her, and yet when I try to spend time with her she just wants to watch soaps! I think she is being unreasonable. Is she?p. 139
My partner discovered I had been looking at porn on the internet. She is now threatening me with divorce. Why is she taking it so out of proportion?p. 142
I feel like I am living with Jekyll and Hyde. For two weeks out of every month my partner seems to have a personality change. She blames it on PMT. Is it really that bad?p. 147
Why does she get angry and upset if I don't call or text her at least once a day?p. 150
Why are cards and gifts so important to her?p. 154
Why does she need me to keep telling her I love her?p. 158
How can I keep saying 'I love you' and other nice things without sounding false?p. 161
How can I tell the difference between when she just wants a hug and when she wants to have sex?p. 164
Why won't she have sex with me?p. 168
And then there were Three...p. 173
We have recently had our first child. I feel my whole life has been turned upside down. My wife has become totally unpredictable; one minute she is happy and the next she is crying her eyes out. What's wrong with her?p. 175
Our baby seems to scream all the time and I cannot cope with the noise. I am not getting any sleep. My partner does not understand how hard it is for me and gets angry if I complain. Why?p. 178
I spend all day at work and when I get home my partner expects me to take on the childcare, yet she has been at home all day. This feels unreasonable. Is it?p. 181
My partner said she cannot trust me to look after the children. I would never hurt the children so why is she saying this?p. 185
I feel totally on the outside and alienated from the family. It feels like it is them and me, yet my partner gets angry and accuses me of not being involved enough with them. Who is right?p. 189
Why does she say I am too serious with the children/grandchildren?p. 193
Conclusionp. 197
Do you have a list of what I can do to try to make her happy in our relationship?p. 198
Are As/non-As relationships ever successful?p. 201
Referencesp. 208
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ISBN: 9781849052696
ISBN-10: 1849052697
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 208
Published: 15th July 2012
Country of Publication: GB
Dimensions (cm): 22.8 x 15.9  x 1.2
Weight (kg): 0.31

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