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The Velvet Rage : Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World - Alan Downs

The Velvet Rage

Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

Paperback Published: 5th June 2012
ISBN: 9780738215679
Number Of Pages: 272

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Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men. 

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Philadelphia Gay News bestseller, 5/11/12 "A groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality, why it leads to shame over one's identity and how to overcome it. This book has remarkable staying power." Artvoice, 11/26/15 "The clearest, most succinct delineation of the origins and consequences of internalized homophobia, and how to address them."

Excellent book


Helps make sense of a lot of common issues faced by young men.



The Velvet Rage

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Preface to the 2012 Editionp. ix
Introductionp. 1
The Roots of Ragep. 7
The Little Boy with the Big Secretp. 9
Ugly Truths & High-Fashion Dreamsp. 19
Out&Ragingp. 31
Overwhelmed by Shamep. 39
Drowningp. 41
Bewitched, Betrayedp. 55
The Real Me: A Crisis of Identityp. 63
Compensating for Shamep. 71
Paying the Piperp. 73
Stuck in Shame: The Vicious Cyclep. 85
In the Mood for a Manp. 93
What's It All About? A Crisis of Meaningp. 103
Cultivating Authenticityp. 107
Mighty Realp. 109
Healing Relationship Traumap. 121
The Road to Contentmentp. 155
Skills for Living an Authentic Lifep. 167
Epilogue: This Peter Pan Grows Upp. 221
Notesp. 239
Acknowledgmentsp. 241
Indexp. 243
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ISBN: 9780738215679
ISBN-10: 0738215678
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 272
Published: 5th June 2012
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 21.0 x 13.9  x 1.9
Weight (kg): 0.24
Edition Number: 1
Edition Type: Revised

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