In her compulsively readable new book, psychologist Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us move beyond a simplistic discussion of infidelity.
There is one simple act of transgression that can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity: an affair. Yet this extremely common act is poorly understood... In her new book Esther Perel provides the insight we so desperately need to help us understand why we have affairs, and what they really mean. Perel does not take cheating lightly, rather her practice (where she exclusively sees patients dealing with infidelity) has taught her just how much pain this act can cause and, as a result, just how inadequate is our current conversation.
In The State Of Affairs, Perel pushes us to engage in a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about infidelity and all the issues that come along with it. From understanding why the affair happened, to making your relationship stronger and more resilient, to how to prevent this in the first place, The State Of Affairs provides the framework we need to understand ourselves and our relationships through our transgressions.
About the Author
Esther Perel is a Belgian-born psychotherapist, and the leading authority on erotic intelligence. Mating in Captivity is her first book. She lives in New York with her husband of twenty-one years, and their two sons.
'Perel's beautiful new book asks us to pause and examine our prejudices and assumptions around affairs - and to hold off on our usual knee jerk attempts to approve or condemn. She wants, first and foremost, that we understand why infidelity happens and what really occurs when it does. Anyone who thinks they understand the topic already needs to read this book urgently. Perel's work amounts to a brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding and-always-kindness.' -- Alain de Botton