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The Sibling Bond : Basic Behavioral Science - Stephen P. Bank

The Sibling Bond

Basic Behavioral Science

Paperback Published: 1st May 2003
ISBN: 9780465078431
Number Of Pages: 400

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Updated with a new introduction by the authors, this anniversary edition shows the sibling relationship as a distinctive emotional, passionate, painful, and solacing power that shapes who we are and who we become. The relationships among brothers and sisters are infinitely varied-a sibling can be one's worst enemy or closest companion. Though their love or hate, envy or compassion, and closeness or rivalry are formed in childhood, these bonds last throughout life, creating character and affecting behavior in numerous situations. Strangely, this profound attachment-second only to the parent-child bond-was rarely studied or understood until recently, perhaps because the feelings siblings have about each other are usually both intense and secret.Bank and Kahn chart this unknown territory, offering a theory of the ways in which siblings attach, create each other's identities, and affect the course of each other's lives. Illustrated with poignant portraits of brothers and sisters in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, this book provides a profound understanding of these complex and enduring relationships, examining the influence of childhood intimacy, parental behavior, family turmoil, birth order, and gender.Based on more than twenty years of research and clinical evidence, "The Sibling Bond" fifteenth anniversary edition brings fresh insight to important clinical and theoretical issues, including attachment theory, the development of the self, and the emergence of sexual identity. While Bank and Kahn demonstrate the implications of their findings for both individual and family therapy, they also give readers a vivid opportunity to recognize and reflect on their own sibling relationships.

Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Introductionp. xv
Unraveling the Sibling Bondp. 3
Previous Research on Siblingsp. 5
Sibling Accessp. 9
The Sibling Bondp. 15
Why the Sibling Bond Developsp. 18
Attachment and Separation in Early Childhoodp. 20
The Parents' Influence on Role and Identityp. 21
Attachment: Early Sibling Dependencep. 27
Emotional Closeness and Interdependencep. 38
Twins: The Special Case of Close and Intense Siblingsp. 39
Conclusionp. 46
Childhood and Adolescence: The Struggle for Separate Identitiesp. 48
Sibling Twosomesp. 50
Yardsticks and Social Comparison: The Looking-Glass Selfp. 52
Private and Public Worlds: Levels of Intimacyp. 59
How Siblings' Personalities Fit: Complementarityp. 62
The Impact of Change and Identification between Siblingsp. 63
Perceptions of Sameness and Differencep. 68
Lack of Changep. 73
Conclusionp. 82
Patterns of Identification and Sibling Relationshipsp. 84
Close Identificationp. 86
Partial Identificationp. 93
Distant Identificationp. 104
Acts of Sacrifice: Loyalty and Caringp. 112
Hansel and Gretelp. 112
Reciprocal Loyaltyp. 114
One-Way Loyalty: Being "My Brother's Keeper"p. 125
The Receiving Childp. 138
Conclusionp. 141
The Sexual Influence of Siblingsp. 143
Biological Endowment and Identity Differencesp. 144
Sexual Confusionp. 148
Sexual Modeling and Pioneeringp. 149
Delayed and Precocious Older Siblingsp. 150
Sexuality between Brothers and Sistersp. 154
Playful Curiosityp. 155
Brother-Sister Lovep. 157
Sibling Incestp. 166
Conclusionp. 195
Siblings in Conflict: Bonds of Aggression and Rivalryp. 197
Positive Aspects of Fighting in Childhoodp. 198
The Powerful Parentsp. 201
Struggles for Superiority in Adolescence and Adulthoodp. 219
Mechanisms for the Containment of Sibling Aggressionp. 224
Satisfactions in Sibling Aggressionp. 227
The Embroiled Family: "Well" and "Disturbed" Siblingsp. 232
How Parents Arrange Relationshipsp. 235
The Well Sibling's Rolep. 238
Disturbing Mirrors of the Selfp. 250
The Price of Being Normalp. 258
The Well Sibling's Sense of Responsibilityp. 264
Siblings as Survivors: Bonds beyond the Gravep. 271
Parental Influence on the Grief of the Surviving Siblingp. 272
Circumstances of a Sibling's Dyingp. 278
Previous Identification and Pathological Mourningp. 282
Destructive Ramifications of a Sibling's Deathp. 287
Positive Resolutions of Sibling Deathp. 291
Conclusionp. 294
Psychotherapy with Siblingsp. 296
Problems for the Psychotherapistp. 298
Assessing Sibling Issues in Therapyp. 306
Sibling-Specific Techniques in Individual and Family Therapyp. 313
Conclusionp. 334
Epiloguep. 335
Bibliographyp. 337
Indexp. 349
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ISBN: 9780465078431
ISBN-10: 0465078435
Series: Basic Behavioral Science
Audience: Professional
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 400
Published: 1st May 2003
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.9 x 15.3  x 2.2
Weight (kg): 0.52
Edition Number: 15