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The Price of Privilege : How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids - Madeleine Levine

The Price of Privilege

How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids

Paperback Published: 18th September 2008
ISBN: 9780060595852
Number Of Pages: 256

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In recent years, numerous studies have shown that bright, charming, seemingly confident and socially skilled teenagers from affluent, loving families are experiencing epidemic rates of depression, substance abuse, and anxiety disorders-rates higher than in any other socioeconomic group of American adolescents. Materialism, pressure to achieve, perfectionism, and disconnection are combining to create a perfect storm that is devastating children of privilege and their parents alike.

In this eye-opening, provocative, and essential book, clinical psychologist Madeline Levine explodes one child-rearing myth after another. With empathy and candor, she identifies toxic cultural influences and well-intentioned, but misguided, parenting practices that are detrimental to a child's healthy self-development. Her thoughtful, practical advice provides solutions that will enable parents to help their emotionally troubled "star" child cultivate an authentic sense of self.

About the Author

Madeline Levine, PhD, is a clinician, consultant, and educator; the author of the New York Times bestseller The Price of Privilege; and a cofounder of Challenge Success, a project of the Stanford School of Education that addresses education reform, student well-being,and parent education. She lives outside San Francisco with her husband and is the proud mother of three newly minted adult sons.

Industry Reviews

"Useful...clear, sensitive..." -- Publisher's Weekly
"In this insightful book, Levine eschews the temptation to dismiss problems of privileged teens as overindulgence." -- Book List
"[Written] with clarity and understanding of the culture of affluence and its pitfalls for parents." -- Library Journal
"Fresh and important ideas about parenting in the age of affluence..." -- Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia
"Levine offers chapter after chapter of practical advice for dealing with family problems." -- Connecticut Post Online
"[Madeline Levine's] ideas may be uncomfortable for parents to read, but they're a wonderful wake-up call." -- Bay Area Insider
"Levine's book explores some troubling and intriguing issues that certainly are worth pondering and discussing." -- Marin Independent Journal
"She treats her subjects as well as her subject with compassion and understanding." -- Chicago Tribune
"...[an] impassioned wake-up call to parents..." -- The Gazette (Montreal)
"This book has resonated in affluent communities all over the country. [Levine is] clearly on to something." -- Atlanta Journal-Constitution
"Her writing is warm and carefully thoughtful." -- Toronto Star

America's New "At-Risk" Child
The Paradox of Privilegep. 3
Why Kids Who Have So Much Can Feel Emptyp. 8
Why We Can't Afford to Trivialize the Problems of Privileged Kidsp. 12
The Not-So-Hidden Mental Health Epidemic Among Privileged Youthp. 16
The Magnitude of the Problemp. 18
Don't Kids "Grow Out Of" Adolescent Angst?p. 24
Don't Kids from Affluent Families Get All the Help They Need?p. 26
The Toxic Brew of Pressure and Isolationp. 28
Achievement Pressurep. 28
Isolation from Parentsp. 30
Why Parents' Good Intentions Are Not Enoughp. 33
Why Money Doesn't Buy Mental Healthp. 37
Money Doesn't Make Us Happierp. 38
Allison: How Affluence Can Get in the Way of Emotional Developmentp. 41
Materialism: The Dark Side of Affluencep. 45
The False Promises of Materialismp. 49
Why "Retail Therapy" Is an Oxymoronp. 50
Materialism and Unhealthy Competitionp. 52
Happiness Is an Inside Jobp. 53
How the Culture of Affluence Works Against the Development of the Self
What Is a Healthy "Self"?p. 63
Kids With Healthy Selves Are Ready and Able to "Own" Their Livesp. 70
Kids With Healthy Selves Can Control Their Impulses: "I'm the Boss of Me"p. 75
Kids With Healthy Selves Can Be Generous and Lovingp. 81
Kids With Healthy Selves Are Good Architects of Their Internal "Homes"p. 86
Tyler's Story: Whose Life Is It Anyway?p. 88
Knowing What Really Matters and What Doesn'tp. 93
Different Ages, Different Parenting Strategiesp. 95
The Magic Years-Ages 2 to 4p. 99
Masters of the Universe-Ages 5 to 7p. 104
How Am I Doing?-Ages 8 to 11p. 108
What Happened to My Kid?-Ages 12 to 14p. 113
Working on the "Real Me"-Ages 15 to 17p. 120
Parenting for Autonomy
How We Connect Makes All the Differencep. 127
Know Your Parenting Stylep. 129
Do As You're Told: The Authoritarian Parentp. 129
Do Your Own Thing: The Permissive Parentp. 130
We Can Work It Out: The Authoritative Parentp. 131
Cultivate Warmth to Protect Emotional Developmentp. 132
Good Warmth: Acceptance, Understanding, and Investmentp. 133
Bad Warmth: Overinvolvement, Intrusion, and Parental Needinessp. 136
Understanding Why Praise Is Often "Bad" Warmthp. 141
Avoid the Damage Inflicted by Criticism and Rejectionp. 146
Discipline and Control: The Tough Job of Being the "Bad Cop"p. 153
Firmness: Being Clear About Your Authorityp. 154
Monitoring: "Do You Know Where Your Children Are?"p. 156
Containment: Letting Your Kids Know When You Mean Businessp. 158
Flexibility: Knowing When to Skip the Showdownp. 159
It's Easier When We Start Early (But It's Never Too Late!)p. 161
The Difference Between Being "In Control" and Being "Controlling"p. 162
Why You Have to Stand on Your Own Two Feet Before Your Children Can Stand on Theirs
Challenges to Effective Parenting in the Culture of Affluencep. 169
Bucking the Tide: If Everyone Is Doing It, That Doesn't Make It Rightp. 172
Holding Ourselves Accountablep. 174
The Poison of Perfectionismp. 178
Overcoming Myopia About the "Good Life"p. 182
Handling the Isolation That Makes Us Vulnerable to Being Bulliedp. 186
The Threat of Divorce and the Potential Loss of "Wifestyle"p. 191
Samantha's Story: Dancing in the Darkp. 194
Having Everything Except What We Need Most: The Isolation of Affluent Momsp. 200
Acknowledging How Very Hard Our Job Isp. 202
Taking Our Problems Seriouslyp. 205
The Fear of Vulnerabilityp. 207
The Risks of Staying Unhappyp. 210
Tend and Befriend: The Critical Importance of Friendshipsp. 212
The Distraction of the Work Debatep. 215
Choosing What We Can Live Withp. 218
Acknowledgmentsp. 225
Notesp. 228
Indexp. 237
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ISBN: 9780060595852
ISBN-10: 006059585X
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 256
Published: 18th September 2008
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 20.3 x 13.5  x 1.6
Weight (kg): 0.22