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The Essential Guide to Bullying Prevention and Intervention : Protecting Children and Teens from Physical, Emotional, and Online Bullying - Cindy Miller

The Essential Guide to Bullying Prevention and Intervention

Protecting Children and Teens from Physical, Emotional, and Online Bullying


Published: 4th September 2012
For Ages: 18+ years old
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Headlines are filled with tragic stories of senseless murders and suicides that have resulted from child and teen bullying. As social networking and technology add to the ways that kids can be bullied, parents feel powerless against this insidious force that compels even "good" kids to participate in or enable bullying in schools, in extracurricular activities, online, and at home.

The Essential Guide to Bullying brings together the wisdom and experience of two people who have witnessed bullying's causes and tragic effects. School social worker Cindy Miller teams with Cynthia Lowen, the co-creator of Bully, to arm parents and teachers with the knowledge they need to:

  • Understand the societal and human forces that are causing bullying to escalate.
  • Discover who is most at risk for being bullied, being a bully, or not helping a bullying victim.
  • Target-proof their kids and teach them coping skills.
  • Identify even the most covert bullying situations.
  • Infiltrate the world of cyberbullying and head off its disastrous effects.
  • Intervene to stop a bullying situation.
  • Know what legal recourse they have to back up other anti-bullying efforts.
About the Author

Cindy Miller, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, school social worker, educator, and parent consultant. In addition to her private practice, she counsels children, adolescents, and families for the Paramus, New Jersey, Public School District and consults with administrators and faculty on multiple issues. She is an adjunct instructor in Sociology at Bergen Community College. She received her Master's degree in Social Work from Columbia University.

Cynthia Lowen is the co-creator, producer, and writer of Bully, a feature documentary film following five kids and families through "a year in the life" of America's bullying crisis. Following the film's 2011 premiere at the Tribeca Film Festival, it was acquired by The Weinstein Company and will be released in theatres nationwide in March 2012. Bully has been received with acclaim at festivals, winning the Brizzolara Family Foundation Award for films about conflict and resolution at the Hamptons Film Festival, and at the Bergen Film Festival it was awarded the Youth Jury Award. In anticipation of the impact Bully will have in catalyzing national change on this issue, the film's director, Lee Hirsch, was featured on Anderson Cooper's Town Hall on Bullying this past fall on CNN, as well as The Dr. Phil Show. In addition, Cynthia has presented the film in panels at the World Wide Conference on Human Values featuring the Dalai Lama, Silverdocs, and the Tribeca Film Festival. Cynthia is also an award-winning writer and the recipient of the Discovery Prize. Her work has been selected for inclusion in Best New Poets 2008, and she has been awarded a fellowship to the Fine Arts Work Center in Provincetown, Massachusetts; the Campbell Corner Prize; and the Tin House/Summer Literary Seminars Kenya Prize, among other honors. Her work has been published widely in journals, including A Public Space, Boston Review, Inkwell, Provincetown Arts, and Tin House, among others. From 2001 to 2006 she served as an editor at Four Way Books, and is currently developing a narrative drama series for television about the making of the atomic bomb.

Twenty-First-Century Bullyingp. 1
What Is Bullying?p. 3
Types of Bullyingp. 4
Verbal Bullyingp. 4
Physical Bullyingp. 5
Emotional Bullyingp. 6
Relational Bullyingp. 6
The Bullying Trianglep. 7
Where Is It Happening?p. 8
At Schoolp. 9
Onlinep. 9
And Beyondp. 10
Speaking the Same Language?p. 11
Teasing vs. Bullyingp. 11
Conflict Is Normalp. 12
Bullycidep. 13
What's Behind Bullying Today?p. 15
The Changing Familyp. 16
The Social Networking Generation: How Bullies Use Technologyp. 18
The Anonymity of the Internetp. 18
Virtual Friendshipsp. 19
Social Isolationp. 20
The Acceptance of Violencep. 21
Video Games: Kill for the Thrillp. 21
Today's Mediap. 23
Role Models Gone Wildp. 23
Lack of Accountabilityp. 25
Understanding Bulliesp. 27
Who Uses Bullying Behaviors?p. 28
Low-Status Bulliesp. 29
High-Status Bulliesp. 30
Socially Marginalized Bulliesp. 30
Characteristics That All Bullies Sharep. 31
How Gender Affects Bullyingp. 32
Boys Use Direct Forms of Bullyingp. 32
Girls Employ Indirect Forms of Bullyingp. 33
Why They Do Itp. 34
When the Home Is Run by a Bullyp. 34
When Bullying Gets You What You Wantp. 35
When Bullying Is Okayp. 36
Underdeveloped Coping Skillsp. 37
Low Tolerance for Frustrationp. 37
When Aggression Is Hard-Wiredp. 38
When Behaviors Don't Grow Up, but People Dop. 39
Understanding Targetsp. 41
Who Are the Targets?p. 42
Passive Targetsp. 43
Provocative Targetsp. 44
Indirect Targetsp. 45
How Kids Signal Their Distressp. 45
Nature vs. Nurturep. 46
The Nature Part of the Emotional Equationp. 46
The Nurture Part of the Emotional Equationp. 47
When a Child Is "Different"p. 49
Why Targets Don't Tellp. 50
Where Does the Anger, Hurt, and Pain Go?p. 52
When Targeted Kids Grow Upp. 54
Understanding Bystandersp. 57
Who Are Bystanders?p. 58
The Silent Majorityp. 58
Bystanders Who Enjoy the Showp. 59
Sidekicks and Wannabesp. 60
Why They Don't Get Involvedp. 60
The Bystander Effectp. 61
Diffusion of Responsibilityp. 62
Adults Are Bystanders, Toop. 63
If You're Not Part of the Solutionp. 64
Preventionp. 67
Target Proofing Our Kidsp. 69
Assertion Is Not Aggressionp. 70
"Just Right" Responses in Social Situationsp. 71
Using Body Language and "I" Statementsp. 72
Body Languagep. 72
"I" Statementsp. 73
Teaching Conflict Resolution Skillsp. 74
Teaching Problem-Solving Skillsp. 76
Teaching Kids to Advocate for Themselvesp. 77
Building Relationshipsp. 77
The Need to Belongp. 78
Connecting Comes Naturallyp. 78
Kids Want to Contributep. 79
Encouraging Couragep. 80
Building Academic Competencep. 82
Interests, Talents, and Self-Confidencep. 83
Creating Kid-Friendly Schoolsp. 85
What Schools Must Dop. 86
A Comprehensive, School-Wide Approachp. 87
Acknowledging That There's a Problemp. 87
Gathering Informationp. 88
Putting Policies and Programs in Placep. 88
Kick-offs and Other Eventsp. 88
Educating Studentsp. 89
Keeping Parents Involvedp. 89
Maintaining a Safe Environmentp. 89
Physical Safetyp. 90
Social-Emotional Safetyp. 91
What School Counselors Can Dop. 91
What Teachers Can Dop. 92
In the Classroomp. 93
Consistent Consequencesp. 94
Effective Classroom Managementp. 95
Encouraging Children to Report Concernsp. 96
The Student-Teacher Relationshipp. 97
When Teachers Are Bulliesp. 99
Making Kids Cyberwisep. 101
The Cybergeneration and Bullyingp. 102
Where Is It Happening?p. 102
Who's Doing It?p. 105
Who Are the Targets?p. 107
Who Are the Bystanders?p. 107
Understanding the Effects of Cyberbullyingp. 108
What Parents Can Dop. 108
Engage Other Parentsp. 110
Report It to the Schoolp. 110
Take It to the Policep. 111
Prevention = Knowledge + Boundariesp. 111
For Parentsp. 112
For Kidsp. 113
Social-Emotional Learning and Character Developmentp. 115
Acceptance vs. Tolerance and Appreciation of Othersp. 116
Caring, Forgiveness, and Generosityp. 117
Be a Good Citizenp. 119
Empathy and Social Awarenessp. 120
Everyone Needs Friendsp. 121
Be a Good Sport!p. 122
Respect for Self and Othersp. 123
Self-Assertionp. 123
Self-Awarenessp. 124
Self-Controlp. 125
Trustworthiness, Honesty, and Responsibilityp. 125
School Programsp. 127
Interventionp. 129
Assessing and Reportingp. 131
Federal Laws: The Office for Civil Rightsp. 132
Bullying Prohibited by Title IXp. 132
Who Is Responsible for Upholding Title IXp. 133
All State Laws Aren't Made Equalp. 134
Professional Development Requirements and Curriculump. 135
Enforcement from State to Statep. 136
State Laws and Youth with IEPsp. 136
Cyberbullying Laws Have Teethp. 138
Bullying in the News and New Lawsp. 139
School Reporting Requirementsp. 140
The Bullying Specialistp. 140
The Safe Schools Improvement Actp. 141
Getting Help from Your Child's Schoolp. 143
How to Talk to Kids About Tellingp. 144
Kicking Off the Conversationp. 145
Listen Before You Actp. 146
The Who, When, and How of Tellingp. 147
When to Tell: Problem Solving Togetherp. 148
How to Tellp. 148
When It's Time for Parents to Get Involvedp. 149
How to Make a Reportp. 150
Preparing for the Meetingp. 150
What Will Happenp. 152
Taking Things to the Next Levelp. 153
Engaging the Bully's Parents or Guardianp. 153
When Your Child Is the Bullyp. 154
Helping the Targetp. 157
The Long-Lasting Scars of Bullyingp. 158
Who Can Helpp. 159
Family Is Vitalp. 159
Coaches and Mentorsp. 160
Faith Communitiesp. 161
Special-Needs Communitiesp. 161
Other Parents and Peersp. 162
How to Helpp. 163
Recognizing and Addressing Stress Signalsp. 163
Putting Your Child's Safety Firstp. 164
Enhancing Friendship Skillsp. 165
Teaching Stress Managementp. 166
Fostering Resiliencep. 166
Practicing Situationsp. 167
More Ways That Schools Can Help Targetsp. 168
Counselingp. 169
Helping the Bullyp. 171
Zero-Tolerance and Tough Love Policiesp. 172
At Schoolp. 173
At Homep. 175
Family Involvement and Supportp. 177
My Child Would Neverp. 177
Breaking Through Denialp. 178
Raise and Discuss Your Concernsp. 180
Setting Expectations and Increasing Accountabilityp. 180
Replacement Behaviorsp. 183
Interventions at Schoolp. 185
Turning Bystanders Into Upstandersp. 187
Who Can Stand Up, and How?p. 188
Upstanders on the Front Linesp. 188
Targets as Upstandersp. 190
How Parents Can Stand Upp. 190
School Staff Are Upstanders, Toop. 192
School Climate Surveysp. 194
The Importance of Buy-Inp. 195
Upstander Behaviors Take Many Formsp. 197
When More Help Is Neededp. 199
Family Problemsp. 200
Divorce and Separationp. 200
The Death of a Parent or Guardianp. 201
Illness in the Familyp. 201
Job Loss, Poverty, and Homelessnessp. 202
Substance Abuse or Mental Illnessp. 202
A Violent Lifep. 203
Learning or Achievement Difficultiesp. 204
Inattention, Disorganization, and Impulsivityp. 205
Limited Social Skillsp. 208
Anxietyp. 209
Tourette's Syndromep. 212
Depressionp. 212
Handling Risksp. 214
Suicidep. 214
Threatening Othersp. 216
Moving Beyond the Trianglep. 217
Rethinking Bullying and Preventionp. 219
What Makes Attitudes Change?p. 220
Civil Rights and Bullyingp. 220
Workplaces Demand New Skillsp. 221
Bullying and Public Health Concernsp. 223
What Kids and Families Are Facingp. 223
What Kids Are Sayingp. 223
Parents' Concernsp. 225
What Works, What Doesn't Workp. 226
The Whole-School Approachp. 228
Sharing School Perspectivesp. 231
Little Things Add Upp. 232
Face Time Mattersp. 233
Dealing with Mixed Messagesp. 233
The Pleasure Principlep. 234
Changing Bad Habitsp. 235
Educators Taking the Leadp. 236
School Counselorsp. 237
Teachers Care About Kidsp. 239
The Wheels on the Busp. 240
Teachers and Counselors Weigh Inp. 242
A World Without Bullyingp. 247
A Whole New World Onlinep. 248
It Gets Better Projectp. 248
Social Networking Sitesp. 249
Getting Support on YouTubep. 250
Grass-Roots Campaignsp. 250
Role Models Taking Actionp. 253
Professional Organizations and Teachers Unions are Standing Up to Bullyingp. 254
Education Support Professionals Are Crucialp. 255
Sample Antibullying Pledges and Lettersp. 257
Resourcesp. 265
Indexp. 275
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ISBN: 9781615642069
ISBN-10: 1615642064
Audience: General
For Ages: 18+ years old
For Grades: 12+
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 284
Published: 4th September 2012
Publisher: Alpha Books
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.6 x 15.2  x 1.8
Weight (kg): 0.39
Edition Number: 1