A parenting book for people who don't buy parenting books.
With straight-talking advice from renowned Psychotherapist Philippa Perry, How to be a Parent is the definitive guide for any parent looking to navigate their past, avoid repeating their own parents' mistakes, and ensure they don't land their own kids in therapy.
Through the combination of case studies, her own experiences as a parent, and therapeutic insight gained from a career spanning over 20 years, Perry tackles the wider issues of what it actually means to be a parent, rather than getting bogged down in the little details.
This isn't a book about meeting developmental milestones, training your child to have enviable manners, or how to get the much idealised 'perfect' family, it's about creating functional relationships with your children so that they grow up feeling secure, knowing who they are and what they want - giving both them and you a shot at real happiness.
Full of refreshing, sage and sane advice on the bigger picture of parenthood, How to be a Parent is the only book you'll ever really need to ensure you don't mess your kids up.
About the Author
Alongside her practice as a Psychotherapist, Philippa Perry is a faculty member of The School of Life, writes as an agony aunt for Red Magazine, and is a contributor for The Guardian. She has also been an occasional presenter for The Culture Show on BBC Two. She has presented several documentaries and most recently, featured in highly popular dating show Celebs Go Dating for E4, where she used her expertise to give the celebrity singles some much needed relationship advice.
She lives in London with her husband - acclaimed artist, campaigner and writer Grayson Perry. They have one grown-up daughter - Flo, and one cat - Kevin.
It is like a letter from a wise friend who happens to have done years of research (...) I am grateful for it * Aida Edemariam, The Guardian *
Made me think about me and who I am and my parents and who they are and maybe, hopefully, one day what sort of parent I might strive to be * Dolly Alderton *
This is a kind and forgiving book that advocates kind and forgiving behaviour, to ourselves and our partners * Cathy Rentzenbrink, The Times *
I've had the most wonderful feedback from this episode. People stopping me on the street to say how much they've love the book's advice. Philippa's wisdom and delivery has resonated with many parents out there. I can't thank her enough for her time and energy * Happy Place podcast *
I don't have kids but [this book] is a fascinating read on the emotional baggage we all carry * Elizabeth Day, How to Fail podcast *
A beautifully comprehensive look at what it might mean to be a sane and emotionally intelligent parent; hugely warm, wise, hopeful and encouraging that, with a little self-reflection and insight, we could all learn to spare the next generation a few of our own troubles * Alain de Botton *
The Easter holidays were a complete joy because of your book - I feel about a trillion times more relaxed and connected as a parent and I have also found it very helpful for my sobriety and recovery * Bryony Gordon *
I'm not a parent. But I fucking LOVE Philippa Perry and think she's wise and brilliant so this will be amazing * Bella Mackie *
EVERY parent should read this book, however old their child. In fact, any adult in a relationship should read it too. Distilled in less than 250 pages is a road map to healthy relationships. Required reading * Express *
Not got kids? It doesn't matter, as the wonderful psychotherapist Philippa Perry's latest book is actually about using our pasts to understand ourselves (...) it's also an excellent book for reminding yourself: life is hard and you're doing your best - so try not to beat yourself up for everyday mistakes * Stylist *