This straight-talking bookgrounded in over 25 years of experiencehas already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms. Anger expert Dr. Robert Nay guides you to:*Figure out which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passiveaggression to all-out rage.*Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.*Master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment.*Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.*Communicate effectively when differences arise.*Practice your new skills in everyday lifeuntil they become second nature.The second edition includes a new chapter on forgiveness, plus updated examples and resources. If anger is getting in the way of your goalsor disrupting the relationships most precious to youthe time to make changes is now.
See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, andOvercoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
"Nay is an expert on anger management whose Taking Charge of Anger is a significant contribution to the literature." -- Lynne F. Maxwell, Library Journal, April 2010 (on the first edition) Professional version: "Nay provides practical, user-friendly techniques to help individuals with anger control problems regulate anger, hostility, and resentment; engage in forgiveness activities; and communicate more effectively. Worksheets, examples, and practice activities are incorporated throughout this self-help guide. Straightforward and evidence based, this is a valuable book for clients and family members, as well as mental health workers." - Donald Meichenbaum, University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada, and Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Florida, USA Trade version: "This valuable book provides evidence-based techniques that can help you gain control of anger and communicate more effectively. Kudos to Dr. Nay for producing a guide that draws on extensive clinical and research experience -- and that is straightforward, practical, and user friendly." - Donald Meichenbaum, Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Florida, USA
Introduction to the Second EditionStep One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger1. The Faces of Anger: Whom Do You See in the Mirror?2. Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and Its ExpressionStep Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers3. Understanding Your Anger TriggersStep Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal4. Anger Awareness5. Dampening Anger ArousalStep Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger6. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger7. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New SolutionsStep Five. Staying Cool Under Fire8. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations9. When Anger Is Aimed at YouStep Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks10. Establishing New Anger Habits11. Resolving Resentment and Considering When to Forgive When You Can't Forget12. So You've Had a Setback: Getting Back on TrackAppendix 1. Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ)Appendix 2. Daily Anger LogAppendix 3. Personal Anger ScaleAppendix 4. Anger AnalysisAppendix 5. Relationship Anger ProfileSuggested Resources