For parents fed up with constant challenges to their authority-but who dread becoming tyrants in their own homes-this book provides a powerful new alternative to ""because I said so."" Trusted family therapist and author Michael P. Nichols takes on the number-one problem of parents today with the insight and humor that has made his earlier The Lost Art of Listening an enduring bestseller. Presented is a simple, easy-to-follow, yet remarkably effective way to put an end to arguments by refusing to argue back. Instead, the techniques of responsive listening help parents open up better communication in the family; create an atmosphere of respect and cooperation; and take children's feelings into account-without giving in to their demands. Loads of realistic examples help parents defuse whining and defiance and manage common conflicts with preschoolers to teens.
"A well written, entertaining and thoughtful parenting book that provides a nice intermix of case vignettes, behavior management techniques, and information about child development and family dynamics."--"Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic"
"Is a well written, entertaining, and thoughtful parenting book that provides a nice intermix of case vignettes, behavior management techniques, and information about child development and familly dynamics."--"Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic"
"This book works well as a manual for parents. It is clearly written, it has plenty of real life examples and regular eye-catching bite-sized summaries, and it convincingly explains the importances of listening to your children's feelings, thereby defusing arguments before they start. For many parents, worn down by whining, tantrums, or constant battles about cleaning rooms, homework, computer use, etc., ad infinitum, it may be a godsend."--"Counselling Resource"
"A superb guide to the basics of responsive listening and how to break bad habits, get closer in touch with one's children, and weather the inevitable storms of adolescence.....very highly recommended reading for parents seeking to enhance the effectiveness of their non-confrontational disciplinary skills."--"Wisconsin Bookwatch"
"What makes "Stop Arguing" so readable is the author's sympathetic attitude toward parents, as well as his acknowledgement that responsive listening alone is not a panacea."--"Kirkus Reports"
"The material in this book will be helpful to parents who really want to transform their arguments into productive conversations and especially valuable to those parents who want to break the cycle of chronic arguing andregain their parental authority. These strategies work for toddlers and teenagers. I wish this book had been around when my oldest child was a baby, but it is never to late to start."--"Attention!"
"Presents an abundance of information that is practical and powerful. Parents, grandparents, teachers, and anyone who lives with or works with children will benefit from his sagacious approaches to eradicating arguments that often escalate into exasperating battles between adults and children....One of the many strengths of this text is the application of the principles of responsive listening to different age groups....Nichols's contribution to the existing literature is exemplary in that he offers succinct suggestions that can be clearly understood by any reader. The implications for improving familial communication and relationships are evident throughout the manuscript. His writing style and organization of the book are well demonstrated, and he clearly articulates his main points. This straightforward, self-help book is especially interesting and helpful for parents and for educators."--"The Family Journal"
"There is lots of wisdom in this book. I like the way it is set up with important points in darker print and inserts. I would recommend the book to parents of defiant, argumentative children. Therapists can also learn from reading this book."--"Journal of the Canadian Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry"
"Whether dealing with my own four-year-old or my sister's feisty preteen, this book has helped me fashion responses that work."--Mary Comerford, mother of three, Westchester, New York
"A widely respected academic authority and clinician, Dr. Nichols understands how families work, and in this book he offers parents a tool to navigate the difficult spots in their developing relationship with their children."--Philip J. Guerin, MD, family psychiatrist, Rye Brook, New York
"A gem of a parenting book, with an abundance of empathy and expertise for parent and child. Just wait until you see the experience of being understood in your child's eyes--the battle will become irrelevant."--Marisa Leto, mother of a five-year-old, Greenbrae, California
"If you're tired of all those arguments with your kids that leave you feeling frustrated, angry, or guilty, you're in for a real treat. Finally, some down-to-earth, easy-to-understand advice for turning battles into loving interactions. Read it--your kids will thank you!"--Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Change Your Life and Everyone In It
|How Responsive Listening Works to Eliminate Arguments|
|Taking Charge of Your Children without a Battle|
|The Five Steps of Responsive Listening|
|How to Head Off Arguments before They Start|
|How to Inspire Cooperation in Your Children|
|Breaking the Cycle of Chronic Arguing|
|How to Apply Responsive Listening to Different Age Groups|
|Young Children: Tears and Tantrums|
|School-Age Children: "Do I Have To?"|
|Teenagers: "You Can't Tell Me What to Do!"|
|The Changing Dynamics of the Adolescent Family|
|When Arguing Seems Unavoidable: How to Use Responsive Listening in the Toughest Situations|
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Number Of Pages: 229
Published: 1st April 2004
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.9 x 15.2 x 1.91
Weight (kg): 0.33