'Is this what all couple go through?'
'Do I expect too much from a relationship?'
'Can my partner really change?'
'Are there steps I can take to get my relationship back in course?'
'When is it time to move on?'
YOU'RE GETTING HURT OVER AND OVER AGAIN, SO SOULD YOU STAY OR SHOUL YOU GO?
Every relationship has problems, but you can't figure out if yours is beyond hope. How bad is too bad-and can your man really change? Now, in this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and women's advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for you to practically and realistically take stock of your relationship and move forward.
If you're involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to:
- Tell the difference between a healthy-yet difficult-relationship and one that is really not working
- Recognize the signs that your man has serious problems
- Stop waiting to see what happens-and make your own growth the top priority
- Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner
- Navigate the waters of a relationship that's improving
- Prepare for life without him, even as you keep trying to make life work with him.
Praise for Why Does He Do That?
"Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships."--Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less
"This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men."--Jay G. Silverman, PhD, director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
"Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft's book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families."--Publishers Weekly
"Bancroft boldly asks--and brilliantly answers--the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue."--Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity
"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended."--Library Journal
"At last--the straight scoop on men who abuse women. This is a book not just for abused women and domestic violence professionals, but for everyone who wonders why there's so much violence in America. Read it."--Ann Jones, author ofWhen Love Goes Wrong and Next Time, She'll Be Dead
"Bancroft helps women who feel trapped in unhealthy relationships make sense out of what is happening."--Sarah Buel, JD, codirector, Domestic Violence Clinic, and lecturer, University of Texas Law School
"A compelling read about a tough topic. What you read here will come back to you long after you put the book down."--Angela Browne, author of When Battered Women Kill
"An informative and necessary read."--Susan Weitzman, PhD, author of Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages