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Mother Factor, The : Psychology - Stephan B. Phd Poulter

Mother Factor, The

Psychology

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Published: 1st March 2008
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Whether we acknowledge it or not, our mothers leave an indelible impression on the persons we become. Our ability to function emotionally in relationships — both personal and professional — is based on our mothers’ deep influence.

In a book full of insights and wisdom based on a career of helping others, acclaimed psychologist Stephan B. Poulter shows how the mother factor can work either for or against us. The key to allowing this important legacy to work for us, says Dr. Poulter, depends on understanding our mother’s pervasive influence on our life. He shows that the way we connect emotionally in adult relationships is based on the "style" of our mothers.

Dr. Poulter defines the five major styles of mothering as:

The Perfectionist Mother—whose family must look perfect in every way
The Unpredictable Mother—whose ups and downs can create lifelong anxiety and depression in her son or daughter
The "Me First" Mother—whose children come second or last
The "Best Friend" Mother—who’s now in vogue but can wreak havoc
The Complete Mother—who provides guidance and shows compassion to her child.

Although most mothers are a combination of the above, many fit more into one category than others. Even though as adults, we tend to dismiss our past as the past, we do so at risk to ourselves. Only by understanding how our mother’s legacy affects us today can we transcend the mysterious anger, anxiety, depression, and shame that we feel, and achieve the kind of relationships we deserve.

Dr. Poulter demonstrates how the internalized "rulebook" we inherit from our mothers is a very powerful force. These unspoken rules govern work, relationships, emotions, separation, and independence. Unless we become aware of the rules that guide our behavior, thoughts, and beliefs, we won’t have the ability to make our own choices.

This enlightening book will help readers connect with their past to correct self-defeating behaviors, reach their full emotional potentials, and live happier, more fulfilling lives.

Author's Notep. 13
Acknowledgmentsp. 15
The Basics of the Mother Factor Legacy
Introduction. The Power of the Mother Factor Legacy-We Are All Sons and Daughtersp. 19
Your First Love-Mothers and Emotional Bondingp. 51
How You Can Make Your Mother Factor Work in Your Adult Life and in Relationshipsp. 85
Five Mothering Styles of the Mother Factor
The Perfectionist Mother-The Unending Drive for Perfection and Lovep. 119
The Unpredictable Mother-Overcoming Depression and Anxietyp. 145
The "Me First" Mother-Creating Your Own Lifep. 173
The Best Friend Mother-Finding Your Emotional Powerp. 199
The Complete Mother-Your Mother Factor with a Compassionate Flavorp. 223
Mother Factor Potential-Creating Your Life
Changing Your Script-Starting with Your Mother's Rules-Rewriting Your Bookp. 249
Your Mother and Food-Learning to Feed Yourself-The Nurturing Secretp. 265
Functioning at Your Full Emotional Potential-The Power of Your Legacyp. 281
Leaving Home-The Big Separation-Getting beyond Your Mother-Separation/Individuationp. 305
Perfectly Imperfect-Your Emotional Legacy-Lose the Baggagep. 333
Endnotesp. 345
Bibliographyp. 349
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ISBN: 9781591026075
ISBN-10: 1591026075
Series: Psychology
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 352
Published: 1st March 2008
Publisher: Prometheus Books
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 21.0 x 13.8  x 2.0
Weight (kg): 0.39
Edition Number: 1