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Ma and Me : A Memoir - Putsata Reang

Ma and Me

A Memoir

By: Putsata Reang

Paperback | 16 May 2023

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Winner of the Pacific Northwest Book Award.

âA nuanced mediation on love, identity, and belonging. This story of survival radiates with resilience and hope.â
â"Publishers Weekly (starred review)

âThis openhearted memoir . . . opens the door to include queer descendants of war survivors into the growing American library of love.â â"Sarah Schulman, author of Let the Record Show


When Putsata Reang was eleven months old, her family fled war-torn Cambodia, spending twenty-three days on an overcrowded navy vessel before finding sanctuary at an American naval base in the Philippines. Holding what appeared to be a lifeless baby, Ma resisted the captainâs orders to throw her bundle overboard. Instead, on landing, Ma rushed her baby into the arms of American military nurses and doctors, who saved the childâs life. âI had hope, just a little, you were still alive,â Ma would tell Putsata in an oft-repeated story that became family legend.

Over the years, Putsata lives to please Ma and make her proud, hustling to repay her life debt by becoming the consummate good Cambodian daughter, working steadfastly by Maâs side in the berry fields each summer and eventually building a successful career as an award-winning journalist. But Putsataâs adoration and efforts are no match for Maâs expectations. When Putsata comes out to Ma in her twenties, Ma tells her itâs just a phase. When Putsata fails to bring home a Khmer boyfriend, itâs because sheâs not trying hard enough. When, at the age of forty, Putsata tells Ma she is finally getting marriedâ"to a womanâ"it breaks their bond in two.

In her startling memoir, Putsata Reang explores the long legacy of inherited trauma and the crushing weight of cultural and filial duty. With rare clarity and lyric wisdom, Ma and Me is a stunning, deeply moving memoir about love, debt, and duty.

Industry Reviews

Winner of the 2023 PNBA
Finalist for the 2023 Lesbian Memoir/Biography Lambda Literary Award

"Putsata Reang paints an indelible portrait of her life and her tempestuous relationship with her mother who saved her life and expected a perfect Cambodian daughter in return. Ma and Me is a wonderful book. I can't recommend it highly enough."
--Elizabeth George, author of Something to Hide

"Ma and Me paints a portrait of generational trauma as sedimentary... and yet Reang carves out moments for light."
--Meg Young, Columbia Journal of Literary Criticism

"With a journalist's eye and a creative writer's heart, Reang has crafted a memorable memoir with poignant lines I'll bookmark for life."
--Pacific Northwest Booksellers Association

"Heartfelt and evocative."
--Karla J. Strand, Ms.

"Ma and Me is an important new entry in the growing body of American refugee and immigrant literature, shining a fearless light on the experiences of queer people whose families have survived the trauma of war. It also stands apart as a work of lyrical beauty, exploring culture, duty, guilt and family with heartbreaking clarity."
--BookPage

"[A] powerful memoir . . . Reang's story is a poignant reminder of the strength of the human spirit, and her writing has been praised for its honesty and vulnerability."
--Emerson Today

"Familial ties and the scars of war are exquisitely examined in this luminous debut . . . A nuanced mediation on love, identity, and belonging. This story of survival radiates with resilience and hope."
--Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"[A] piercing memoir . . . [Ma and Me features] well-wrought vignettes of a complicated mother-daughter bond."
--Kirkus

"This beautiful story of struggling to reconcile love, family, and identity with generational trauma belongs on every queer immigrant's shelf. For those of us who know how it is to always fall between two worlds, Ma and Me is not heartbreaking but heart-healing."
--Nicola Griffith, author of Spear

"A book as close to perfect as any I have read in many years. Lyrical, emotional, and profoundly moving, Ma and Me is in equal parts a love story between a mother and her daughter, and a family's tale of survival, war, and the inherited traumas. I read Ma and Me in two days, and that is only because I forced myself to slow down to savor Putsata Reang's sharp, poetic prose."
--Loung Ung, author of First They Killed My Father

"At a time when there are more refugees than ever in history, and borders are places of violence and cruelty, two essential stories of our time converge in Ma and Me: Americanization's multigenerational costs, and the way this converges with lesbian life. Putsata Reang expands both literatures with this openhearted memoir that grapples emotionally and historically with the profound consequences of displacement on future lives and relationships. A book that opens the door to include queer descendants of war survivors into the growing American library of love."
--Sarah Schulman, author of Let the Record Show

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