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Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder : How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship - Shari Y. Manning

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship

Paperback Published: 29th June 2011
ISBN: 9781593856076
Number Of Pages: 253

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People with BPD can be compassionate, caring, smart, and funny, but they are also prone to explosive emotional outbursts and highly self-destructive acts. BPD expert Dr. Shari Manning helps overwhelmed loved ones understand why their spouse, adult child, or other family member acts so "impossible" -- and learn to respond differently. She presents simple yet powerful strategies that can radically transform a troubled relationship. Loads of true stories demonstrate ways to defuse crises, set limits, and help the person with BPD build crucial problem-solving and emotion-management skills. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for significant others grounded in dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD. Dr. Manning is a longtime associate of DBT originator Marsha M. Linehan. This book will be particuarly important for loved ones facing the challenges of BPD; mental health professionals and students.

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"Dr. Manning's compassion, understanding, and nonjudgmental approach resonate on every page of this readable, helpful book. She eloquently describes the challenges of caring for someone with BPD and provides numerous step-by-step strategies for dealing with common problems. Highly recommended." - Michaela Swales, Bangor University, UK "The title says it all! Dr. Manning explains what she has learned about the true nature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) from the experts themselves -- those who have the disorder. She shows family and friends how our instinctive responses to the crises associated with BPD are frequently ineffective or even harmful, and illuminates what we can do differently, providing practical, incisive, step-by-step guidance. The book helps readers understand their complicated relationship with a person with severe emotion dysregulation. It provides valuable tools for dealing with self-harm, suicidality, and hospitalization decisions. Of crucial importance, Dr. Manning clearly affirms that BPD -- and the pain experienced by those who suffer -- is real. We highly recommend this book." - Jim and Diane Hall, Family Educators for the National Alliance on Mental Illness and the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder, USA

a good insightful read and helpful in a compassionate way


helped me to understand some tricky family members more and my own responses to them



Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

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Forewordp. ix
Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Introductionp. 1
Understanding Your Loved One and Your Relationship
"Why Do I Feel So Lost in This Relationship?"p. 7
What Makes Someone So Emotional?p. 26
The Hidden Power of Validationp. 52
Five Steps to Balanced Responses and Better Outcomesp. 70
The Many Faces of Borderline Personality Disorder
"I Can't Stand Feeling Like This!"p. 101
"It Was All My Fault"p. 116
"You Have to Fix This for Me!"p. 130
"Things Are Awful ... but Don't Worry; I'm Handling It"p. 146
"Why Do Terrible Things Keep Happening to Me?"p. 162
"Nothing's Wrong-I'm Fine"p. 179
Dealing with Crisis and Getting Help
Handling Your Own Difficult Emotionsp. 191
Understanding Self-Harm/Suicide and Making Decisions about Hospitalizationp. 212
Getting Treatment and Supportp. 227
Resourcesp. 237
Bibliographyp. 243
Indexp. 245
About the Authorp. 253
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ISBN: 9781593856076
ISBN-10: 1593856075
Audience: Professional
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 253
Published: 29th June 2011
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 21.59 x 11.43  x 1.91
Weight (kg): 0.34

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