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Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic - Douglas Bey

Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Paperback Published: 1st May 2007
ISBN: 9781590771174
Number Of Pages: 229

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The child of an alcoholic develops patterns of behavior during childhood which carry over into adult life. As children they were taught to cover up the family secret and suppress their feelings. No matter what is going on, as adults, when asked how she or he is doing your partner will likely answer "fine." Distrust, fear of abandonment, and sensitivity to criticism are all major issues for your adult child. Recognizing these patterns and changing the ones that cause problems will help you and your partner enjoy a deeper relationship.

Most apparent in the reading of this book is that Doug and Deborah Bey believe in the possibility of adult children of alcoholics being able to garner and sustain healthy couple-ship. Addressing the well known issues of lack of trust, hypervigilance, difficulty with conflict, inability to play, assuming the worst, and fear of commitment are just a few of the dynamics in which they offer support and direction for both partners. With a wealth of examples, compassion, and humor this couple offers validation and hope to the possibilities of developing secure and healthy relationships.--Claudia Black, Ph. D., best-selling author of It Will Never Happen To Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introductionp. 1
You Aren't Reading This by Accidentp. 7
Entering the "Mind Field"p. 29
Putting the "Fun" Back in Dysfunctionp. 53
The Push-Pull of Commitment and Trustp. 65
The Paradox of Chronic Tensionp. 79
He Had a Hatp. 91
They Don't Know They're Beautifulp. 103
Mountains from Molehillsp. 113
You Get to Make the "Important Decisions" and Your ACOA Makes the Restp. 121
Nurturing Your Partner's Inner Childp. 127
Too Nicep. 135
Parenting Is Scary for Most People-Especially Your Adult Childp. 149
ACOAs Frequently Dread Social Occasionsp. 161
Birds of a Featherp. 173
Tending to Your Relationshipp. 181
Dealing with Addiction Problemsp. 189
Religion Helps Usp. 199
Conclusionp. 213
Resourcesp. 219
Indexp. 225
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ISBN: 9781590771174
ISBN-10: 1590771176
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 229
Published: 1st May 2007
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.61 x 14.73  x 1.78
Weight (kg): 0.36